Why is it when you find someone whom u r truly comfortable with, they are married or in a relationship?

Answer 1

Why are you hanging around married an unavailable men?

Answer 2

Don't get caught up in the hype, but Its the same thing when you meet a person for the first and for some reason you don't feel comfortable around them. You get that negative vibe (ora)

Well that ora is what initially attracts you. People that are happy are usually spoken for and that happiness shows. Its kinda like "nobody wants somebody that nobody else wants." Your curiosity tends to be your judging tool. You need to find out what you are attracted to. For example If you are a student and you like tall, dark men with long hair and are athletic. Go to the library and seek tall dark men with long hair that are not athletic, Or go to the mall and look for men with long hair that are short. this way you will see what it is you are attracted to.

You can also use this for a persons characteristics such as funny, vibrant, good looking, well groomed, ect.

Answer 3

Good ones??, no, they areall the same.... I think if you examine what it is all about you will find that typically people are more at ease with married men/women or folks that are in some sort of relationship. They feel no threat, have less inhibitions and are more apt to do things that they normally would surpress doing with their mates, thus the comfort levels are quite a bit higher, or so it seems.

Answer 4

Because you don't have to impress the other person. The thought is that since one is already married the possibility of a relationship developing is already out the door. This allows the two people to let down their guard, to be who they really are. Sounds nice, doesn't it?

There is a danger here, of course, because it can lead problems and quickly.

Answer 5

Okay- if they are married or a relationship stop looking to them for a relationship... It will lead to nothing but heartache.

If you are attracted to someone who is married- stop, you would hate it if the situation was reversed. Most people who leave their spouse for a lover end up in failed marriages yet again...

Find someone single! There are plenty of people out there who want to love and be loved with ideals like yours.... It takes time and patience.

If all else fails ask your friends or family if they can set you up on a blind date with someone they know you might fins interesting and vice versa who is defintely single...

It is not easy being single but it's even harder to be a secret lover.
Then he's not just cheating on his wife with you, he's having his cake and eating it too...

Answer 6

Depends, did you get comfortable before or after you found out they were married or in a relationship.

Answer 7

It might be becuase those people who are taken aren't worried about impressing others or making themselves look good to win approval. They are just being themselves which can be very comforting. These people seem the most confident in themselves which attract us to them.

Answer 8

Ask your self that questions again, this time very slowly and think about what your saying....
Maybe that's why you feel comfortable with them. Is there a reason why you don't feel comfortable with singles?

Answer 9

You should break up. Pack it up. Would you want that done to you and your husband? What goes around comes around. You will not be happy if you cause someone else misery. Find one of your own.

Answer 10

lol dont you know all the good men are taken lol, but you in luck,lol,, hold out for 10 more years an i going to trade my wife in on 2-20,