Her dog got out today and was ran over by a car.I want to help her through this.because animals are family too plus I know she loved him.Thanks for your replies!!
2007-02-28 08:08:53 · 14 answers · asked by peanutbulls 4 in Pets ➔ Other - Pets
You might go to your local Halmark store. They now have sympathy cards for pet owners. She might really appreciate the thought. Good luck.
2007-02-28 08:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Losing a dear pet can be like losing a human being close to you. They are both filled with grief, and sometimes even regret.
The best thing that you can do as her friend is to just be there for her as a strong shoulder to cry on. What she needs most right now is someone to hear her and not to offer advice or opinions. There will be a time for that down the road. Not now.
Maybe offer to pick up some groceries for her. Help her around the house with little things. Often when someone is hurting, the littlest of things are even too big to accomplish. Let her know how special her pet was and how much you cared about her dog too. Maybe recall some nice stories you all had with her dog, maybe some that were even cute or funny. Even though it was "just a dog" to some people, it was a faithful and loving companion to her.
The fact that you cared enough to want to know the right thing to do in this instance says a lot about you. Be there for her now and let her grieve. That is the best help you could ever give.
2007-02-28 08:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by Singthing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing will make her less sad about losing her dog, but there are lots of things you could do to make sure she knows you care!
Girls always like flowers, or balloons are a good change. Every time she looks at them it will remind her that you care.
Do you have any photos of the dog, or can you get some from her mom? Making (or buying) a cute frame and giving it to her with the dog's picture would be sweet too.
2007-02-28 08:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grieving a pet is the same process as grieving a family member and everyone is different. All you can do is listen and be supportive. Nothing you can say or do will make things better, it just takes time. Don't ignore it or avoid the subject, your friend needs time to grieve her loss. I would be devistated. Just be there for her.
2007-02-28 08:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by paloma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my cat died in 2005, a friend and her husband sent a sympathy card, just like she was a family member. It was very thoughful and respectful.
An acknowledgment of how important the dog was to her is nice and an expression of sympathy for her loss should do.
2007-02-28 08:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by Who Knew? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much that you can say other than to be there for her and be supportive. And empathetic. Let her cry and talk about it. She may have to go over it many, many times. From memories she has to the actual event. And she will go through all kinds of emotions and need lots of support.
I had a dog I had to put to sleep about 10 years ago. He was old and had diabetes and his liver and kidneys were shutting down and he was in a lot of pain. This was after about a year of insulin therapy and lots of visits to the vet. It was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do.
And whether you choose it or it happens from an accident. It still hurts.
Just be there and listen to her.
And let me tell you, when she has calmed down from it, after weeks or months. She will let you know when and if she is ready for another pet.
If this happens, she will let you know simply by talking about it.
Offer to help her, to go with her to look and suggest adopting from the Humane Society or a local shelter. As this way, she can rescue someone and give them a second chance at life.
And these animals know it too. Believe me, I have experience in this situation. As many do.
And about a year after my dog died, my friend got a picture of my dog from my husband. And she framed it, put some cute paw print stickers around it and a poem. I don't have it with me right now. But, it's written like my dog wrote it to me and it talks about how it was in the beginning, and how hard it was to say goodbye. But that it was the best gift I could have given him. Stuff like that.
There is a poem called "The Rainbow Bridge" that is great in these kinds of situations. It specifically talks about when your pets go to heaven and how they will meet you on the other side.
Don't do anything like that right away. But, do offer to talk, listen to her cry, tell it's normal to feel the way she does. And know that this could take her awhile to get over.
Offer to help her bury the dog. Even have a funeral, depending on her desires.
But, just listen and be there for her. She will let you know what she needs from you as a friend.
At the same time, don't let it take over your life.
You can be there for her and still set limits on what you can and will do for her.
She will have a hard time at first. But, with time, she will heal and probably want to share her heart with another furry soul.
When she does, help her to make that transition. That is normal too, to want another pet again. Even sometimes right away.
That new pet will never take the place of the one that died, but, it will give her someone to give that love to. And sometimes a new pet will "be there for you", like they feel that you are in pain and will try to console you. Especially one you rescued. They seem to somehow know that this is their second chance and want to help you back.
Good luck! Just be patient. She will be okay.
2007-02-28 08:23:11 · answer #6 · answered by Harley Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a gold fish! No just kidding. Just be there for her. There's not much you can say. Just put yourself in her shoes. What would you want people to say to you? That's a hard one -huh-
As long as you are there for her. Get her out of the house and do something that will cheer her up and get her mind off of it for a little while.
Sorry and good luck
2007-02-28 08:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by _Chantel_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hallmark & i'm positive different card organizations, now make playing cards for the shortcoming of a puppy. would I advise making a donation to a close-by shelter in memory of her expensive canines? provide her the cardboard with a observe interior about the donation & the way you're there for her in any way that she needs you to be. from time to time it in simple terms helps to charm to close that some different person takes the death of your puppy heavily.
2016-12-05 01:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say you're sorry to hear that and try to talk about it with your friend and talk about the funny times u had with the dog.
2007-02-28 08:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by rystest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know an old woman who lost her dog and I got her a angel holding a puppy in her arms, she loved it!
2007-02-28 08:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋