What are some options that my sister might have?

Question

My 14 year old sister just had a baby and she would rather live at her boyfriend's house with the baby instead of my mom's because at his house there is a better enviroment. My mom won't hear of it and being that it's AZ my mom gets the final word. What kind of options does my sister have and where does is the line drawn to how much say my mom has?

My 14 year old sister just had a baby and she would rather live at her boyfriend's house with the baby instead of my mom's because at his house there is a better enviroment. My mom won't hear of it and being that it's AZ my mom gets the final word. What kind of options does my sister have and where does is the line drawn to how much say my mom has? Everyone is being very supportive and we are all going to help out but at my mom's house the enviroment is not that which you would want to raise a baby. My sisters dad is an alcohlic and is into drugs and does them out in the open all the time. My mom and my sisters dad are both chain smokers and my sisters dad in the past has been both physically and verbally abusive.

I'm her older sister and she knows that I would do anything for her. As for talking with my mom and addressing the issues. Well, thats a lot like talking to a stone wall. She aint going to change and neither is her husband. (I say her husband cuz I have a different dad.) I'm going to help her out but as of right now the only one comfortable with her living with my mom is my mom. No one is comfortable with the baby and my sister staying with my mom. But my mom knows that she has the final say in everything cuz this is AZ and so she will make it so that she has the final say and it's going to be my moms way.

I have my own place and my sister has been living with me off and on. And its hard to turn in my mom and her husband. She doesn't do drugs and she sticks up for her husband. Trust me, everyone in my family has tried.

Answer 1

She can try to becaome amancipated and then it would be up to the courts/judge to decide what would b in her best interested, if she then becomes amanicpated she will ecentually be an adult. Another option would be contact child and youth services in you area and talk to a counsuler to see what options your sister has and what is in her best interest.

Answer 2

Well, this is the extreme, but, if she turns in her Dad and Mom for the drug abuse then the state could possibly let her move in with the boyfriends family. She should talk to a lawyer. A public defender or someone like that. Someone with some real professional answers.
There has got to be a way for her to prove that she is in a bad enviornment and that the boyfriends home is more safe and healthy for both her and the baby.
She might have to establish that the Mom of the boyfriend is willing to take custody of them both where she is underage.
She definitely needs to talk to someone that knows about these things.
She should call an attorney and get a free consultation.
Most of the problem is getting documentation. And someone like that could help her to get all of that.
Good luck! And God Bless!
P.S. Sounds like you need to get out of the house too if that's what's going on.

Answer 3

What makes the enviornment at his place better? Think about that, and try to make some positive changes in the enviornment at her mom's.
Do you still live with her? (not sure if you're older or younger... but I know my sis depended on me A LOT when my niece was born.) You could be a big help... offer babysitting help-even if its just an hour so she can get a nap or a shower, extra chores... I know that doesn't sound fun, but it would mean a lot to her and you'll feel good knowing that you are being a big part of the baby's life.

Answer 4

Shame that is a hard question to answer.Your sister is now a mother herself and if she feels that it will be better for her child to live elsewhere then there must be legal ways that she can move away from her mothers.I would suggest that she talks to her health visitor to see what her options are and it would be better for the child to be with the dad.but it has to be the right choice for the child.

Answer 5

Me being a mother of an almost 13 year old, I would not let my daughter move simply because she's still a minor and my child and I want a future for her, and I'm not saying I would babysit but I believe she's my responsibility until she's 18 yrs.

Answer 6

Ask yet another depended on grownup like an aunt or a counseler to take you someplace to get a being pregnant attempt. Then in spite of the consequence of the attempt, see a physician because of fact in spite of if she isn't preggerz then somethin must be incorrect cuz of the aches in her abdomen. stay calm and that i think of that no rely what happens, no rely if she's pregnant or no longer, tell your mum and dad what got here approximately. they're in basic terms there to help :) suited of success on your sister.

Answer 7

She is a minor child and her life is over before it began! Ufortunately, she is very likely to raise the child in poverty, and the child will remain in poverty. Also, the baby is something like 80% more likely to be abused, either physically or sexually. She needs to rethink being a mommy right now. There are options. She should check out this website.

Answer 8

You cannot get emancipated or married that young in the state of Arizona. If your mother is abusive that could get her out of the house.

Answer 9

She is a minor....she would have to petition the state to have his parents become her guardian to live with them without your mother's consent....unless she marries the boyfriend. If she marries him then she can live wherever he does.

Answer 10

Maybe it would be better to just talk to your mother and address the facts.