okay so i am 19 and i dont have insurance at all. my parents are very stricked and they went back to our contry for about 3 weeks. we are romanian. so i my parents said if i embarasse them and become pregnant they will move away and pretend they never had a daughter. they dont like my fiance cuz he is not romanian. i dont have insurance and we afre really broke we barely have money for food. i cant sleep at night cuz i am so afraid this baby wont be healthy how will i support it and i am just terrified. there are days i am excited and days i am so scared that the baby wont be healthy. help i need answers where can i find insurance and what should i do?
2007-02-28 07:54:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sometimes parents' reactions are much different from what you would normally expect. I got pregnant at 22, right after graduating from college, and instead of experiencing WWIII, my parents have been very supportive. You should try to prove to your parents how responsible how responsible you and your fiance start (get jobs, start a savings account, etc) and also contact your state's medicare department. There are many programs available for young, single mothers, which is what you are at the moment, so please try to not be too worried. Also, find as much support as you can get from other family or friends (what about your fiance's family?) and I'm sure everything will be alright. Good luck!
2007-02-28 08:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by keonli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your parents, but it's possible that their claims to disown you are exaggerated. When faced with facts, they might be a little more reasonable. This happens all the time. You should definitely let them know, as soon as they return to the country.
At 19, you both should be able to get jobs. You should work up until you cannot, for medical reasons.
Apply for assistance. Someone suggested wick (it's actually WIC for "Women, Infants, and Children"), which is a program to get food. You can also find free medical clinics. If you live in or near an urban area, there are a large number of free clinics devoted to your situation. Believe it or not, it's a lot easier to get free prenatal medical care than it is to get free medical care for cancer. A lot easier.
Everyone feels scared about the health of their kids. It's normal. But don't let that stop you from doing what you need to do: work, getting checkups, eating right, etc.
It's too late for a lecture, but you and your fiancee need to take responsibility for this. You make the decision to have sex. The reason I raise this is not to give you a hard time, but to make sure that you understand that you're an adult. You need to act like one and put your baby ahead of yourself. Whatever you do, do for the baby.
Lastly, if you honestly can't care for the child, you should think seriously about putting it up for adoption (if abortion is not a choice you'd make). There are people who would LOVE to have a beautiful baby. And they'll ensure that you have the medical care you need. I appreciate that it's hard. But if you're really this poor, you think to think about whether it's cruel to subject a baby to it. Or if giving it another life is better. Only you will know what's right for you.
Good luck.
2007-02-28 08:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both you and your fiance get a job, doesn't seem like your parents are going to help. Oh by the way, WIC isn't that great, they give you free food and milk, stuff like that, it's not alot really, it's not enough to keep you healthy and full and have food in the house all the time.
2007-02-28 07:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by immarealgothipromise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your local Health and Human Services agency..I am sure you can apply and be approved for help. Here in CA we call it MediCal..not sure what it's called where you are.
Also contact your local WIC office..they can help with healthy food. You may also try food stamps..there's no shame in that.
Believe me there are tons of resources for you!
As for your parents, remember you are an adult..worry first about the little life inside, and secondly about other's reactions..tell them when the time seems right.
2007-02-28 08:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY! i've totally already thought about this, because i MIGHT be pregnant, with my fiance's baby, and i will lose my parents insurance in about a month (i lose it on my 19th birthday, which is this march), so i've thought about this. First of all, i live in Oklahoma and they have a very good state program for unwed mothers, so as long as i'm not married, i could get a lot of help from the state, so you might want to check into what's going on in your area. Also, check into wick, they will help with food and items you need to survive. Also, you both should talk to him about working, and what you want to do with your lives. Example, my fiance and i both want me to stay home with the kids, but it's hard for one person (especially someone just starting out, with no real education) to pay for a family of three, so i'm going to go to photography school, and work from home. That was i can take wedding pictures etc on weekends to help out with the bills. it's just about finding a babysitter (easy for me because i have a lot of family, but you could ask friends) Just talked about what you both want and go for it. Also, keep up faith. Things will work out, it just takes a little work. Well, if you want to talk or anything (i know A LOT about pregnancy, and will probably be able to help you with anything) or just need someone to talk to or advice or any quesitons, email me.
good luck!!!!! and congrats on the engagement and soon to be baby!!
2007-02-28 08:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by Andii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Get married right now, get a justice of the peace to do it or something - you're parents never need to know it was conceived prior to the wedding date, you just had the baby a few weeks early is all.
2) Get in contact with wic, Medicaid, etc, there are lots of programs to help.
2007-02-28 08:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try Planned Parenthood or Tri-Cap. There are places you can go that will help you. You may even qualify for Medicaid and help from the government. WIC (women, infants, children) all very helpful resources! Good luck and God Bless
2007-02-28 08:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by rideabanjopicker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a support group, there are MANY resources out there to help you. From furniture, clothes, food to friendship, medical advice and support. Don't let your parents run your life. You are not a child, they can manipulate like this. You're not 12.
2007-02-28 08:06:37 · answer #8 · answered by Noota Oolah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am sorry you are in such position with your parents, but, they will either get over it, or they won't. There isn't anything you can do about them. Now, you need to focus on yourself and your baby. I don't know where you are living, but there are many programs available for mothers without insurance.
2007-02-28 08:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by The Hippy Momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get on your states free health care. I can't afford maternity insurance so I use TNCare. Also try WIC, they help with food and baby stuff
2007-02-28 08:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Gap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋