2007-02-28 07:49:14 · 8 answers · asked by blondie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would recommend focusing on more of his positive traits, rather than this one negative.
Does he TREAT you like he loves you? Does he run around with other women? Does he bring his paycheck home? Is he a good father? You see where I'm going. . .
If he's a good husband otherwise, be thankful for him and keep telling him that you love him and "sweetly" (touch him when you say it) remind him that it would be nice to hear it from him too. It makes you feel "romantic." That approach always works on me.
2007-02-28 14:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men often express love differently then women. We like saying it, buying them cards and stuff like that. Very outward displays. Men, on the other hand, often prefer to SHOW women they love them. Being a good provider, doing the "guy chores", etc. are big ways they show us they care for us and love us. Am I right guys?
I've heard from many female friends that their men don't tell them they love them enough and I always ask how do they ACT? Does he act like he loves you? Then he probably does.
Men also seem to get into comfortable habits and routines after being with someone for a long time. He could just be in what he perceives as the routine of your marriage. If him not saying it has been the status quo for many years he may not know you feel that something is lacking. He may just assume that you know he loves you. After all, you guys have been together a loooong time! He may think, of course she knows I love her!
Only men really know how men think!!!!! I just know it's a mistake to expect a man to act & react like a woman would.
If the marriage is good otherwise, then maybe tell him you'd like to hear the words more and see if he can compromise and oblige you? If the marriage isn't very good anymore, then perhaps consider counseling?
Twenty years...that's something to be proud of these days! I hope you two can work it out & good luck to you!
2007-02-28 16:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by ratgrrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sometimes when you say the same thing over and over again, all the time, like "I love you" it starts to lose meaning.
Does he SHOW you that he loves you? That's what's most important.
Maybe you should stop saying it to him, and start showing him instead. See if he notices. Actions speak louder than words!
Congrats on 20 years of marriage!!
2007-02-28 15:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you perfer that he tell's you I love you then cheat on you? or show you he's loves you and stay faithful?
Some men can't verbalize what they feel but show love in other ways. You been with him for 20 years, you wouldn't have stayed that long if he didn't show love.
2007-02-28 15:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often do you "wow" him in the bedroom? Give him something to be excited about and maybe he will say more nice things.
Good luck!
2007-02-28 15:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really hate the way a woman's mind works. Honestly.
2007-02-28 16:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then what you need to do is talk to him. or pull out your fav. rolling pin and knock him over the head to make he say the word you need. Good Luck.
2007-02-28 15:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh well that is the way some men are....this is usually the same behaviour that they had in the beginning of the marriage...men usually do not change
2007-02-28 15:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by sunbun 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋