So I dont know what to do. Im maybe only a week pregnant at the most. I told the father (my boyfriend) and he didnt exactly have the best things to say. He doesn't know if he'll be able to be there for the child and all that. I dont know what to do. I cant abort my child. It's not right. What else can I do? I scared to go through this alone!
2007-02-28 07:42:35 · 16 answers · asked by ♥TTC #2♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Talk to your parents. Talk to your friends... figure out your support system and try to work through it. Sit down with your boyfriend and tell him you can't have an abortion because you both knew what could happen and still had unprotected sex, and tell him that's not an option to you and ask him what he thinks you should do about it. If he says he can't be there for the child, why not? And what does he think you should do?
In the end, it's ultimately up to you, you are the one who will have to carry this baby, and care for it in the end. If you aren't ready for a baby, there are so many people out there who want a baby and can't have one and you can put it up for adoption.
Before you get scared, talk about it! I think the most important thing to do is talk to your boyfriend!
Good luck with whatever happens!
2007-02-28 07:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your heart is definitely in the right place which is good so don't be scared, be happy. I raised my daughter by myself for the most part (only because her father was away at school) and I was unsure about what to do and how to feel. But everything came into place once I told myself that I was going to be able to do it and found the strength. You're never alone, whether it be friends or family, someone will be there for you even if it isn't your boyfriend. In the end, it will be his loss and you'll have a beautiful new baby in your life. You can do it.....
2007-02-28 15:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Miss O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner reacted very badly when i fell pregnant and wanted me to have an abortion but i refused and now i have the most beautiful baby girl and i am so glad of my choice.her dad left us so i am raising her on my own and i love every minute of it.it is just her and i and we are so close.don't be scared because when you hold your child for the first time nothing else matters and you will meet other mothers and you will get support from them.you will not be alone as your child is always with you so be happy and be strong for your child.your boyfriend may change his mind about being there for the child as it is his child and the love that you experience for your children is so intense that it is hard to ignore.but he might not be there for you as a partner but that doesn't matter you will have a child who will give you all the love you need.it is hard i know and you do cry but look forward to the day you hold your child.I also suggest you consider breastfeeding as the bond that grows between you two through this is the most wonderful thing.good luck,be strong and i hope that it is not too hard for you.
2007-02-28 15:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your situation. Unfortunately alot of women end up in this kind of situation. You don't have to go it alone. Use your resources....you have family and friends, right? If you don't have any supportive ones, there are church groups and some cities have groups who can help you get prenatal care, a buddy who can help you through labor some at a nominal fee and others volunteer. Then AFTER the baby comes, should you choose to raise the child there are low cost daycare options and things like WIC to help you make it through. If you choose to give the baby up for adoption, there are agencies that will help you find a suitable option for adoption like open or semi open adoptions which allow you contact with the child after being placed with a family. Again, I'm so sorry for your situation and I wish you all the best. God Bless!
2007-02-28 15:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by Heavenly Advocate 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well what didi he say?? and are you sure you are pregant or is your body just acting weird. well if you are do not abort that is stupid and i am not sure what he said but i am taking it he doesnt want it and let me tell you something when i first told my bf he wanted me to get an abortion but that was for my health just bc i was told i cant have kids but ne ways he later cmae around and now he is more excited then me!! so he may come around and if not there are plenty of women who raise babies on their own. you do not need a man to do it and if he is not going to step up then he isnt really a man to begin with. i am sure someone in your family will be understanding and will help you out so you dont do this alone just relax and try not to stress. tell him how you feel and if anything you can still give the baby up fpr adoption there are plenty of couples out ther who can not have kids and would provide your child with a good life but dont abort give the baby a chance at life after all he didnt ask to be made!!
2007-02-28 15:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by Bree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine was the same..he threatened me up and down and around. I ended up doing it alone the whole pregnancy. I know it sounds sad, but you are a woman and are stronger than you think..throw yourself into the care and love of the little miracle inside of you..take good care, speak and read to your little one..let them always know you love them. Mothers are the most powerful creatures on this earth..they have the ability to carry the most precious resource in this world..know your powers.
Eat well, take a whole food pregnancy vitamin, go to your appts. with or without support. You can do it! I have done it twice, as well as many many women in this world.
He may eventually come around..mine did..but if he doesn't, understand you have been given a very wonderful gift. The love for your child will be enough to carry you through.. good luck.
2007-02-28 15:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're going to have to plan on doing this alone... but, there is the chance he'll change his attitude.
My boyfriend didn't react well either... even though he intentionally got me pregnant. It took him about 3-4 months to change his attitude. Once our daughter was born... it was instant love, and he would never have it any other way.
If you do end up doing this on your own... don't worry. Find a really good support system -single Mom's groups- it's important to have people who you can talk to who are going through the same things you are.
2007-02-28 15:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh darling I'm sooo sorry and I actually Know what your going thru I spent Countless Nights Crying and wondering why the best advice I can offer you in put your faith god and continue living a strong life and everything will balance out.. your going to make the right decisions for you and your child... I hope he comes around.. Some Guys Do.. But Good Luck
2007-02-28 15:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by xIn My Write Mind!!!x 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You could give it up to adoption, or the two of you could seek counseling. If you do decide to keep the baby, count on raising it alone. Hopefully you will have the help of your family and friends, but this guy sounds like he will be out the first chance he gets. I hope he comes around and stands up to do his duty as a father, but statistically there's a good chance he won't. Good luck.
2007-02-28 15:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by redrancherogirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow. My first instinct is to berate you for being so irresponsible, although it was a team effort. How about adoption if you do not feel capable of raising a child yourself. Consider that out of wedlock births are the number one cause of poverty.
If your boyfriend won't accept his responsibility:
1) Show him to the door.
2) Use better judgment in the future.
2007-02-28 15:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by Jeffrey P 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋