Dont know why I cannot face people..... Like on the other day, In our school we have a job fair. I had my resume ready and wearing buisness attire but I didn't go to the recruiters cauz lack of confidence. its kinna stupid but I can't deal with that situation.. Plz help ....
2007-02-28 07:36:08 · 10 answers · asked by maria 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I was just like that. I say get a hobby that you'll be proud of. I really got into photography. Then when you're in a situation like that again, start out a conversation about you're hobby, or in the job fair thing, put that as one of your talents.. something like that? Now I can't find the word. I hope you know what I'm talking about.
2007-02-28 07:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by ladyeilwynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel, some days i'm confident in my self other days i'm not. before you go into a job interview or meet with people just think of all your good qualities and how you can be an added benefit to their company. make sure to look at people in the eyes when you talk to them smile in cage in conversation and keep a positive attitude. if by change they don't offer you a job ask them why you didn't get the job so you can be better prepaid for next time
2007-02-28 15:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by silentwriter16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having low self-esteem is not stupid. Many people deal with it in life.
The best way to get past it is to simply keep talking to people. Like if you are nervous about going in the water - you would keep going back in until you weren't scared anymore.
In business, I recommend a book called "Nice girls don't get the corner office."
It lists out how women growing up were taught to act a certain way in business situations that is not considered acceptable in business, like inappropriate eye contact and bad emotional reactions to things. Men do it too.
If you are nervous about talking to a recruiter I recommend you memorize two things before walking up to them. 1. Have a first statement in mind such as "Hi, my name is Maria. Tell me about employment opportunities with your firm etc etc" and 2. List a number of things you want to find out about a prospective employer such as pay, vacation, what is expected, etc etc.
Know that the best question you can ask a possible employer is "What is the most difficult thing I will face if I accept this position?" - Then write down the answer. Always take notes, especially in interviews. Employers will appreciate your taking their business position seriously.
Whenever you are introduced to someone in business or personally, always repeat back their name to them to be sure you have heard it clearly and in future statements to help you memorize it. Names are very important to people.
Good luck!
2007-02-28 15:49:16 · answer #3 · answered by Ethan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is totally normal feelings! everyone has felt this way in life
there are a TON of great books out there on self esteem and
developing confidence. Some of it also is who your peers are,
stay away from negative people for one! try to keep reminding
yourself of all the good things you have in your life! dont worry
this too shall pass!
2007-02-28 15:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by Laura G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand before a mirror and talk to yourself as many times as it takes to convince yourself that you are a person, a woman as good as any one else, and that shyness, is actually the low confidence you think that you have. Go and face your worst so to speak persons that generate your shyness, and stand taller than them and convince yourself once and for all that you are their equal if not better.
2007-02-28 15:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by markos m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be aggressive! You're going to be the one without a job because of low self-confidence!
2007-02-28 15:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
self pep talk also not listening to that inner voice that says you cant or your good enough ,smart enough ect. and remember no matter what the situation it is never as bad as what you imagine in your head also when intimidated by approching people imagine them sitting on the toilet haha
2007-02-28 15:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by debra b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not look down on yourself.
Beleive in yourself and not in what people say about you.
Follow this up with prayers to the most high God.
2007-02-28 16:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by laady p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though this situation is very paralyzing to you and is quite serious. You should find a good therapist. Seriously. I suffer from very acute social phobia and my therapist gave me some tools to cope. I am functioning very well thanks to her.
2007-02-28 15:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about the self-talk. DO NOT allow yourself to say ANYTHING negative to yourself. Only use positive thoughts and it will bring positive energy to you. Please give this a serious try! Really--do it !
2007-02-28 15:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by bandit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋