Well.. this guy he is there to give me a shoulder to cry on (literally) and he's always giving me a listening ear. We are quite of a close friends but he wont tell me anything about himself. Infact when i try 2 know him better, he pushes me away.
He would not talk to me for days and will turn cold.There's this one thing which confuses me a lot. He had once told me to look at a bigger picture of something. But the thing is he won't tell me what.
Well it left me confused and everytime we see each others it borders around awkward.It's like we are hanging about with things left unsaid.
So what does he means by look at a bigger picture?The thing, he does know that I'm dating someone. I'm not going 2 dump my Bf and go for him but I just want to know what and why he's acting this way.Any help?
2007-02-28 07:34:30 · 14 answers · asked by Rynn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think he likes you as more than a friend. Since you have a boyfriend, he knows he will only get hurt if he gets to close to you by opening up. I think the "bigger picture" could possibly mean....look you have a boyfriend and you are not going to dump him for me and I know that. That means you are not available. I have feelings for you but I can't act on them because of the boyfriend and I don't want to get hurt ....... Somtimes guys just can't be friends with girls becuase they want to be more.
2007-02-28 07:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by Hope 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's clearly hiding something. I say he probably has strong feelings for you and doesn't want to tell you because you're already seeing somone. Send him an email or write him a letter telling him how important your friendship is and that you don't want anything to come between it, and you feel as if he's not telling you something, and reassure him that whatever he tells you won't change things. If he can't tell you face to face, he could write a letter back to you, or something.
It seems like too good a friendship to spoil, so you can't keep being awkward around each other, take initiative and find out what's really wrong with him. Hope this helped.
2007-02-28 15:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the big picture! well what it is mainly is your life goal in life what keeps you WANTING to live!
my big picture is having a loving partner on some land with lots of trails and woods with some water...
so what ever isn't getting me there isn't included in the BIG pic...
so manly this guy friend of yours it trying to get you to think about your big pic.. what is your life mission? why do you want to keep living.. and make it BIG that's why they call it the big pic!
Why he is acting that way is because he could have been hurt or he is scared to open up to anyone!
your best bet would be to state this
"Hey sorry i pushed you to talk to me about what not.. mainly i want to thank you for being such a good friend to me and want you to know that I am hear for you as well! My shoulder is for you to cry on if you need to."
then LEAVE IT ALONE you can not make someone open up and the more you push it the more they will pushaway!
just make it known that your here to talk to if he needs someone to talk to that you as well can be a good listener!
Good luck~
2007-02-28 15:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think he is trying to warn you of something before you find out and he wants you to consider the whole picture. Meaning think about what is now and not the past. He is afraid of getting to close, but he is trying to let you know in his own way... I would sit him down and ask that he just be honest about you or just let by gones be and continue your friendship. All depends on what you want.
2007-02-28 15:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by ressie re 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't give you his phone number and/or won't tell you where he lives, he may be married and doesn't want you to know. Other than that, I can think of no other reason for him to be so secretive about himself... Unless he's a wanted criminal or something terrible like that, which would be highly unusual. I don't think I could truly be friends with someone who wouldn't tell me anything about themselves.
2007-02-28 15:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by Hypatia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its no big deal, he's just not one to express himself. We as women feel we have to know everything....whats wrong?...what r u thinking?...what are you feeling?...if you're not with him what does it matter? it won't make you feel better to know...you just think it will. Because this will only lead to more ?....he could also just not want to explain himself. Just don't stress it. You're beating yourself up for nothing. Worry about you and ur b/f and let this be. You cannot control other people and what they say and think. Be happy, live life and move on with those irrational thoughts of yours. They're just causing you to get all upset for nothing.
2007-02-28 15:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Caro*~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
fact is he likes u wen u get close to him he seperates so u he doesnt seperate till ur botfriend breakes up wit u and the picture thing is that imagen him bigger than ur bf because hes the4re 4 u and hes not
2007-02-28 15:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by Israel j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just very strange. Find someone who isn't so confusing. He wants to steer you away from details of his life as unimportant. Sounds like a bad boy.
2007-02-28 15:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by The Rabbi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big picture im pretty sure he wants YOU to see is you have a boyfriend, Hes not interested so there you have it. Face the situation for what it really is. Its a NO---G0..........bettyk
2007-02-28 15:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by elisayn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to be more than friends with you. You need to set him straight and tell him you arent leaving your BF. Get rid of his false hope.
2007-02-28 15:39:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋