Today I feel depressed because I have a feeling of worthlessness. Las week my childhood friend came from my country to visit me, she's like my sister and she invited me to have a dinner together. When we went to a restaurant and after 2 hrs. I came home and my husband doesn't talk to me. Monday he went in a bussiness trip and has been 7 days without calling me or nothing, he just calls our children that are in college. But I don't have a social life, when he's at home my friends can't come over or call me because he gets mad at me. I feel now after so many year or marriage that I don't want to spend the rest of my life with a man that doesn't respect me or care about me. When he calls and he's traveling just calls to check if the house is ok, if I mow the lawn, if I put fertilizer, if I take care of his truck for change oil and stuff like that. He made ugly comments to me about my breast, that are big. That my legs are not ok for high hills. My height is 5' 8 and my weight is 145 .
2007-02-28 07:17:08 · 13 answers · asked by MayanPrincess@sbcgglobal.net 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sweety...You need to talk to him and most likely get yourselves into marriage counceling. It hurt me reading this...you cannot live your life like that anymore! Please please please do something about this you are a STRONG woman and you need to show that by taking the initiative and talking to this husband of yours who has absolutely NO right to treat you the way he does. You need to show him that if his actions continue like they are now that you are going to LEAVE because no woman deserves that. You do so much for him and he needs to learn how to appreciate that and absolutely no one should be put down and feel insecure about their bodies by the ONE person in their lives who should be there for them. That is horrible and sweety please please get help okay? Fix this because you dont want to waste your life away on someone who is just going to bring you down.
2007-02-28 07:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by *Mariah* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book "The Verbally Abusive Man -- Can he change? -- A woman's guide to deciding whether to stay or go" by Patricia Evans.
I went through something similar and happened to pick this book out after I had already filed for divorce. It's a self-help book, so you should take some of what she says with a grain of salt.
However, the book was very helpful in putting into words what I'd been trying to tell my husband about his behavior.
It might help you with some insight as well.
2007-02-28 15:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds really insecure, afraid someone will steal what is his. u have the low self worth because of so many years under this man's thumb. why not file for divorce, get your child support, get a job, and begin a new life. if he is commenting on your personal looks, he has already wounded u as once the words are said u can't take them back. dump him and get a life where u have some control over things, he is disrespectful and hurtful and very immature like a teenage boy who makes fun of others, by making u feel inferior he feels more important. a spouse is suppose to uplift u compliment u, tell u u are beautiful not zero in on something about u or your body and pick on it. don't allow his unfounded and ugly opinion of u define how u feel about yourself anymore. get rid of this toxic man who is hurting u and making u feel bad about yourself. good luck
2007-02-28 15:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usally once a controller always a controller...he was probably this way before the marriage and you are probably the one who has grown and changed. If the situation is undesirable--move out and get a divorce...if u can tolerate the situation..know that he will not change...u must either accept this as his normal behaviour or move out and start a new life--good luck...remember life is short
2007-02-28 15:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own question. You don't want to spend the rest of your life with that kind of man. He sounds like an ungrateful mean jerk. he's forgotten that your his wife not his damn maid. Do what you feel is right in your heart because you have the answer.
2007-02-28 15:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by ilisalec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is pushing you away and he probably is not being faithful to you, that is probably why you cant hang around with anyone when he is around. You shouldn't let anyone push you around.
If you can try to work this out talk to him and tell him how you feel.
Everyone has their bad days maybe this is just one of those.
But if it continues and nothing changes or you don't see that he loves you then try counseling or something.
I hope this helps you good luck
2007-02-28 15:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids are in college and your entitled to a life. Leave him and start fresh. He is NOT going to change!!!!
2007-02-28 15:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill him in his sleep. That's what they all do. Putos Puercos. DIVORCE is the answer. Never live your life unhappy for someone just because you think you love him.
2007-02-28 15:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by BigAndBeautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short. Your kids are gone, why are you staying? That should be the question.
2007-02-28 15:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not deserve you. If I were you I would start by a legal separation and go from there. You deserve to be happy.
2007-02-28 15:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋