okay, so me and my gf only get to see each other every 1 or 2 months b/c of our ldr, so i was wondering how to make our time spent together more pleasurable? i dont want to have sex until marriage and she doesnt either. she does french kissing with me, but i get the impression that she does it more for my arousal than hers. does anybody know how i can turn her on without doing dirty stuff? she is shy and we are both just under 18 if that makes a difference. thanks
2007-02-28 07:17:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
If you see 100 different women and ask them, you will hear 100 different ways. Nobody can tell you how to turn YOUR girlfriend on.Every woman is different.
2007-03-06 00:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by Tony A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In reading your question you say that you have the "impression" that she engages in french kissing for you not so much herself. You also state that you want to wait for marriage before having sex. The best way to spend you time together is communicating with each other. Everything else works itself out after you get married. If truly want to turn each other on....learn the exquisteness of word communication...FIND out now what each of you like and don't like by ASKING questions. If you're both "inexperienced" now learning the word communication will make newlywed life an easier transition when you get there. Marriage isn't based on any kind of guessing games. Using words is so important. Sit down and ask yourselves the big questions...
Like how long will it take to save the wedding, how many children do you want to have. Do you want to marry before or after college. Do you want a joint savings account to put the wedding honeymoon money in together or do it separately. Depending on the answers to many questions you might realize that getting together for the purpose of "pleasurable time" not very effective. Bringing yourselves to the brink of "getting dirty"? whats that about. I know this may sound rediculous to you because you are young and want to be with each other but think how you will feel when you spend your time more profitably for the future.
Waiting............now there's an idea you already have a grasp of...Why put your energy into getting to levels of sexual frustration with "pleasurable time". You could get to the point of thinking you can't wait anymore....so be careful with this....
Think of what it would mean to you both for the shyness of your bride to be disspelled on your wedding night.
Oh, one more thing... God made sex..it is good certainly not "dirty" HE also wants you to wait for the marriage. I can tell you from personal experience that something trandcended occurs with two people in love with each other who wait for the marriage bed. God blesses you for this!!! Sex between two people becomes a spiritual experience...Here's hoping you make it....Best Wishes and Keep those stars in your eyes...JM
2007-03-04 19:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by Pinkprincess5455 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are under 18 you should not be worrying about how you can turn her on. you should be more concerned about getting to know her and her getting to know you. that should and could be more of a turn on then getting down and dirty. It is also not dirty. Making love is so much more then getting down and getting dirty. With women you need to romance them. This is a bigger turn on some times then the act of making love.
find our what her hobbies are and if you have any to relate. is she a reader. find a good book (not a dirty book) and read it to each other. drink soda out of a wine glass. make a romantic dinner.
2007-02-28 07:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her out for a romantic dinner or movie.
Give her a sensual back massage.
Kiss her neck, nibble her ears, etc.
Tell her you love her.
All women are different. Mostly the dirty stuff is what turns women on. Tell them dirty things. Touch them in dirty places. If you don't want to have sex you can dry hump, have oral sex, or mutually masterbate each other.
Here's 2 links....I advise you to look at them because they're helpful...
http://stedoyle.com/sexist/turn%20on%20women.jpg
http://www.mackingtips4u.com/howtoturnwomenon.htm
Good luck and Have fun with your girlfriend!
2007-02-28 07:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys don't want to have sex until marriage, you shouldn't be trying to turn each other on. If you do, you could end up accidentally going too far. Just spend time together doing non-sexual things you both enjoy.
2007-02-28 08:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by kielsa03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just carress & hold her.Mayb a message.I commend u both 4 wanting 2 wait.*
2007-03-05 12:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by Joyful 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the problem is she's with me the rest of the time just maybe i please her and when she's with you its her rest time im sorry im a stud and you are not
2007-03-05 10:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
very carefully.
2007-03-01 07:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by shoowap 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋