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What are the rules, once uve broken up??
what are the rules of the after break up?
2007-02-28 06:47:17 · 21 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It really depends on the situation and how the breakup when down. Some people have no problem being friends afterwards, but for more couples than not, trying to have a friendship just ends up unhealthy for one or more involved.
2007-02-28 06:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by mfupipoet 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well,That all depends on how bad the break up was. I don't see there really being any rules other than if you both hate each others gut's now that it has ended than you should both just leave each other be with their own life.Don't care what they do and don't be vindictive and try to hurt them. Just let it go and move on.
I have seen alot of cases where two people who broke up from a long relationship became much better at being friends only.Yes, it takes time away and time to forget certain things but certainly not impossible if you both know how to act like adults.
2007-02-28 06:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhm I found this its funny and kinda true:
Girlfriends' Break-Up Rules
Of course you want to be there for your BFF when she experiences the trauma of traumas and gets dumped. (Or experiences a break-up of any kind). But after a period of time, after you've soaked through the shoulders of three sweaters because of the crying she's done on your shoulders, there's a point where every good girlfriend needs to do an intervention of sorts and tell her newly-single buddy to "GET OVER IT, GIRL!"
May I suggest having her sign a contract of sorts? From "The Girlfriends' Guide to Getting Over Him". . .some "break up and move on" rules:
1. I will not call him. I will not call him even if I'm convinced it wil make me feel better. I will not call him even to get my stuff. I'll have a friend do that. Preferably via email.
2. I will not email him. Not even an innocent or funny group email forward. I will not contact him at all.
3. I will not frequent the places I know he goes, even if I went there first and like it better. I know going to such places will hurt more than it will help. Going to those places is stupid, stalker-ish, and will be painful only to me.
4. I will not enourage or allow friends to do anything foolhardy, even with my best interests at heart. This includes talking to him when they see him in public. . .to let him know he's a herk and he'll never do better than me, or to share that I'm looking fabulous, got a promotion, bought a new house, and am dating George Clooney.
5. I will screen my calls. I will not answer the phone unless I know who it is and I'm sure it's not him. All other calls will go to voicemail.
6. I will not take his phone calls. I repeat--I will not take his phone calls.
7. I will not return his phone calls or emails. If he is "just checking" to see how I am, I know he's really just checking to see if I think he's a jerk. He is looking for an ego stoke, not to get back together, and I know this because he did not start out the communication with, "I'm sorry. I made a mistake. I want us to get back together."
8. I will not look for signs that we will get back together. This includes asking the Magic-8 ball or palm readers, or your horoscope.
9. I will not believe this is temporary. I will see this as permanent until proven otherwise by concrete actions, immense apologies, and couple's therapy.
10. I will not hide under a rock, be humiliated or ashamed that this relationship ended. For all I know, this could be the best thing thast ever happened to me.
I promise to abide by these voes for at leat thirty (30) days, or until I have gotten over him, whichever is longer. This I do affirm. So help me.
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2007-02-28 06:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lady B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion:
No contact should be made for at least 3 or 4 weeks, to let the "healing process" begin
Your friends should not date his/her friends after the breakup (unless they were already with one of his/her friends) and vice versa...
Once contact is finally made between the two said parties, it should not be a daily occurence for at least another month, because at this point a relapse is still possible.
Any gift given between the ex's should be kept in a safe place, out of site, but not burnt or thrown away, because one day you may be happy to still have them.
If the breakup was not due to infedelity or something of that nature, and was on mutual terms, friendship should be tried for after the waiting period of around a month, because it never hurts to have more friends.
2007-02-28 06:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how the relationship went and how you still feel afterwards. It can vary from "we'll never talk again" to the two staying best friends. *Waves a hand*
If one still likes the other, though, friends who know cannot date the other one. That's a general rule.
2007-02-28 06:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Quit calling!!!
2. No casual sex.
3. If you see each other in public, and cannot be civil, walk away.
4. Do not seek vengence
5. Move on with your life.
6. If your friend sharts to date your ex, who cares?
7. Erase number from cell phone.
2007-02-28 06:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
rules after the break up??? hey your a free agent the only rules that apply are the rules you live by.
2007-02-28 06:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by TOM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only rule for me is doing what I feel comfortable with.
2007-02-28 07:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No rules just move on with your life
2007-02-28 06:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no rules once it's done it's done. As far as family members are concerned it's okay to keep in contact but that's it.
2007-02-28 06:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋