Don't get me wrong or start judging me as being selfish, I support him-emotionally, finacially & physcially, I do help with the business as much as I can, I know that this business is his dream I understand it's hard on him & it takes ALOT from him, but ALL I ask for is 30 minutes a day-15 b4 work & 15 after, that's not alot, I don't even require seeing him as long as we TALK for those little 30 mintues a day, and I can't even get that, he knows we have a problem & apologizes for it, but yet doesn't do anything about it.
2007-02-28 06:46:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He works 7 days a week
2007-02-28 06:53:41 · update #1
Is it a business that you can accompany him to work at all, even just for an hour or two a day? Early AM, Late PM...
Can you help him with paperwork/typing..anything?
It may not be TLC time, but at least you guys will be together - plus he would appreciate it.
2007-03-01 02:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by Izzy B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest not throwing the baby out with the bath water, at least not yet.
If there's love, that's worth more than a lot, that is almost everything. It's your life, you got to do what's right for you, but if it were me, I'd stay. And understand that a guy's identity is often tied in with his work. So, taking that metaphor a little further, right now, he's a developing child at his business. He needs time to grow and establish himself as an adult in the business world. It's wonderful that you help, and that will go a Loooooong way in his eyes. But realize that the business doesn't carry the same importance for you as it does for him. Even if he is not saying it, this is his way of loving you, of taking care of you, and of preparing for your futures together. So, with that understanding, I suggest giving him some breathing room.
At the same time, take care of yourself. Do things with and for yourself, even if he doesn't join you. Take up some hobbies. As much as possible while being true to the relationship, take care of your physical, mental, emotional, and Spiritual needs.
It's also very important to make sure ALL of your interactions with him are positive and supportive, and not critical or nagging. It makes a world of difference in how HE perceives your time together, and how much he WANTS to spend time with you.
It might be helpful if you could sit down with him and ask him how long he expects this period of time to last. See if you can come to an agreement of how long you and he will continue this pattern, how long he will continue pouring this kind of energy into the business. Let him know that although you feel neglected, you can cope with it if you understand that it is just temporary and have a date, a goal for spending more time together that you and he can work toward. I do believe in giving a person a chance and a fair warning.
Let him know, (if it's true for you) that you do not choose this lifestyle on a permanent basis and you will need to see some changes as you and he reach the goal date. The danger is that this IS his lifestyle of choice, and that he will not make the changes. That is a risk that IMO is worth taking to keep the baby. But let him know that the bathwater MUST go by goal date, or you will.
As you contemplate this suggestion, and others, always remember that it's your life, and only you can truly decide what's right for you.
Best wishes
2007-02-28 15:22:25 · answer #2 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men feel they have to bring in the money in the house and not have there loved ones work so hard but they fell to realize it takes away for the relationship. You need to sit him down and tell him that our relationship is rocky. We need to set some time aside for us. I know your business is a big part of your life but so am I and you need to show me more love and attention or there is no telling what will happen to us.
2007-02-28 15:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by lyrics2732 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A business isnt a dream anymore, having to do that kind of time, its become a nightmare.Explain to him that not only do you need time with him, he needs time for himself.He cant go like that forever.Eventually something will give, you will leave or he'll have a stroke.Hes got to draw the line.
2007-02-28 15:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by dynamite136 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for a good and inforing anser i say stay somthings are hard in life just try to set some limits and soon it will alll be ok alright now go
set some limits
2007-02-28 15:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by wow432 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what about days off??? What kind of business???
2007-02-28 14:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by INVOLVED/CONFUSED 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋