I've dated a man for almost seven years, and one year ago we had a child together. After she was born, we began to drift apart from lack of communication and many other things. A few months ago, he dumped me, dated another girl within a week. We both realized that we had made some mistakes and wanted to give it another shot, so he dumped her and we got back together. After 2 weeks, he realized he needed to get counseling in order to be in the relationship 100%, so we stopped dating again. 3 days ago, he told me that he had started having sex with the other girl after we broke up again and now she's pregnant. It is a fifty-fifty chance this is his child, for she's been known to sleep around. Now he doesn't know how to fix this and I don't know how to approach this. All I know is that I have loved him for seven years and I want to do what is best for my daughter...and if the other child is his, I want him to do right by that baby. What do you think I should do?
2007-02-28 06:45:46 · 8 answers · asked by Sadmomma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think with his history in mind you can legally have him put down...just contact your local vetrinarian and he can help you with this difficult, in yet necessary procedure~~
2007-02-28 06:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by ~Cindy~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say he realized he needed counseling in order to be in the relationship 100% and this was 2 weeks after he came back to you. You must be a glutton for punishment. Can't you see, he never stopped seeing the other girl. You do what you must to be happy, but if he wanted to be in the relationship 100% he would have gone to counseling and not to bed with the other girl.
Oh, and you say she has been known to sleep around.......so has your husband......... and it may be his child.........he can't fix this situation.
2007-02-28 14:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl... forget about him... FILE CHILD SUPPORT! he should of been gone long time ago. Yeah u still love him and blah blah blah. But u should not be treated like this after 7 seven years of your life. He shouldn't need co uncling just to be in a relationship with u.
All that matters now is him taking care of your baby. That's all.
2007-02-28 16:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wise up if he did not marry you before your so lucky. Dump him now for good and sue him for child support. He seems to have sex without being in love and now may infect you with HIV herpes and a whole host of disgusting diseases. Seek some counseling for yourself . Don't lose more time.
2007-02-28 15:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by nylatinanurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how much can your heart take i know you want him to do right for that baby but you also gotta think as this other baby is involved will he sleep with the mother will he leave you for her this guy cant seem to choose between the two but all i can say is follow your heart honey, good luck
2007-02-28 15:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to propose an ultimatum. Your daughter needs a father. He's either willing to be your husband and her father, or you rid yourself of him of find someone who will. If he chooses to be with you, insist that he take care of the other child if it turns out to be his.
2007-02-28 14:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by dave_cooke1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him figure out his own problem. stay true to yourself,keep the communication going. take time to exam you and what your needs are... no benefits for him until this mess is sorted out and that is if you want him back.
2007-02-28 15:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cindy that answer was priceless!!!!...lol too funny~
2007-02-28 15:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by wild1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋