Given the social standard applied to women...?

Question

Given the social standard applied to women in regards to sexual activeness (re: being an assertive/aggressive sexual participant), do women open up fully with their partners about their need for sexual relief, or do they still show a controlled measure of restraint that they do socially?

By comparison, if a man is in need of a little relief, he'll actively persue is partner for some intimacy. The question is, do women actively persue men for similar reasons, or wait for them to get the itch?

Answer 1

Generally, I'd say that that sexual standards stuff is a load of crap. I think in my group of friends, the women are typically much hornier than the men, and just as sexually demanding if not more so. I'm dating a girl from Taiwan from outside my circle of friends, and she makes demands ("Get naked." or "Be horny.") whenever she's in the mood, so I'd say you've lived a filtered existence. Girls actively pursue sexual fulfillment, but only once they've had a taste. I know lots of girls in college, even this small town college, often engage in hook-ups with guys they don't know. Well, it takes two to have a hook-up, doesn't it? If there are any girls that want to step in and offer a feminine perspective, that'd be great, but I'm quite confident with my answer.

Answer 2

On average? No! A women need only have little patients and a man will come along. You do know the Samoan " virgin birth " story, don't you? It seems that some women among Samoans at one time were disbarred from sexual relationships for being so unattractive. All these women were mothers though. The Samoans pointed to this as a proof of virgin birth. I keep telling you people on this site that men and women are not only physiologically different, but, more importantly have different evolved reproductive strategies. This is brought into sharp relief by the universality of human behavior in this area. If all human behavior was culturally, or societal mediated to the degree social scientists want it to be we would see an arbitrariness in human societies that would show up the social science position to sharp relief; but we do not see this.

PS Self reports such as the above are never upheld by the ethnographic or observed data. People seem to say just about anything, but do otherwise quite often.

Answer 3

From my personal experience, I don't wait for my spouse to get the "itch". I do pursue it, and this would be for most occasions. And I don't think this has to do with a social standard. Depends on how a women views "sex", they are either really shy and embarrassed about it or they have a strong sexual drive that they aren't afraid to show privately or publicly. I'm sure there's alot more women now a day that can say openly" Hey, I'm Horny" and it's OK.

Answer 4

Women don't need men for that. We can get relief without any help from anyone. There are some women out there who are desperate and will do as the men do. For the rest of us, we just hold out for the right man to lose control over. Thanks.

Answer 5

'... do women actively persue men for similar reasons...". We are all human. As humans, we are all sexual beings. We are bundles of hormones - though how much, what kind and which 'combination' will vary individual-to-individual and sex-to-sex. The answer to your question is yes.

Answer 6

I think the social standard you are referring to is very much outdated. I can tell you that most woman over the age of 30, that are healthy and somewhat mentally stable don't have any issue with voicing their need for sexual intimacy and/or the pursuit of it.

Answer 7

I don't think that women (in general) feel that kind of physical "need" as much as men seem to. Women certainly get desirous of sex, but not to the degree that it hurts them physically not to do it.

I would never tell the man that I love that "Hey, I want to get off, do me" or something like that. Women know how to approach a man or be available if they want to make love. I know that if I want to make love I just touch him suggestively or kiss him well and he gets the point pretty quick.

Answer 8

if i want "it", i need "it". no hesitation at all in asking, pursuing or expectation of getting "it". and as far as that social restraint you speak of goes, it's really finesse. most women i know are not waiting to have a move made on them. they pursue men that they are interested in at their own pace. if they are married or in a committed relationship then what's the problem? are we talking low sex drive for one or both parties here. or is it relationship apathy? pull out the victoria secrets, weekend getaway plans, toys and have a hot date with your mate. haven't you seen sex in the city? no matter, communicate before you fornicate and enjoy!

Answer 9

i think it all depends on the women... i know some women who refuse to make moves.. and others who are much more actively involved in their sexlife.

Answer 10

i don't know I'm not sexually active