I feel like my husband is sucking all the energy out of me like a vampire. He doesn't give me what I need to go on with my days. With him, it's like hanging in there minute by minute cause you never know when a fight is to break out or something bad is going to happen. I know it's not supposed to be this way. I just wanted to get that off my chest.
2007-02-28 06:21:05 · 14 answers · asked by kisses 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like my everyday life!
2007-02-28 14:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by raven975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one way. If you are religious a good way to help this problem out is to pray together as a couple each night. When the other party is praying listen in, and you know what is going on, and may be able to find a way to get around the issues that are issues.
Another good way is to take out even 15 minutes where everything is turned off and just have a heart to heart talk with your spouse. Each day.
2007-02-28 14:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by CL R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I feel yah pain. I had that same problem with my son's father (was not my husband..thank my god!). He was bringing me down with all his "unnecessary" DRAMA or problems. So I just deicded for my son, my sanity and just for me to be me....I had to talk to him about it. And I did, at first. I tried to make it work, do things a little different, but kept feeling the same way. So I had to make the decision to leave, well askhim to get out. And he did, after fussing, but I just could not take that BS anymore, esp. when a child is involved. Life is too short. You have to make yourself happy, esp if you "mate" is not helping in that process. You may want to just seat him down and talk to him - lay down some things that you need in order to function properly in this marriage or look into taking some time away from him or seeking some counseling........Good Luck!!
2007-02-28 14:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand. Your husband need a wake-up call. Give him one. When your husband takes you for granted and brings a lot of negative energy into the relationship, it can be a desperate situation. Desperate times call for desperate measures. I don't condone cheating, but this is one of those times when your husband needs to look at you in a different light.
2007-02-28 14:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go and beat a pillow up...or take a shower and scream...But to have the best advice on the hubby is...just dont say anything to him...I mean anything, make him step up and say something first..Treat him like a kid, Tell him if he doesn't have anything nice to say that you dont want to hear it. He might be pissed and not talk for days but hold your ground dont talk to him at all until he makes the first step to talk.Its called the silent treatment, Works like a chram.
2007-02-28 14:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm also taking it that you feel suffocated and you walk on egg shells around him. Join the club! It's not supposed to be that way. If you feel like talking more, IM me or e-mail.
2007-02-28 14:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jewel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u may want to plan leaving and divorcing him, don't let the circumstances get u down, try to ignore him until u can go or make him go. if there is abuse u could get a restraining order and get him out. just plan a future without him. he will drag u down if u allow it, just don't respond when he starts a fight with u, or just agree with him, do whatever it takes till u can get away from him.
2007-02-28 14:28:06 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I feel for you since I have a simiar situation. I try talking and telling him what I need - He says he is "trying" but I am not seeing the fruits of that trying
2007-02-28 15:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get someone like that out of your life.
2007-02-28 14:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is dragging us down too. Don't make me come down there.
2007-02-28 14:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋