Hello im a mother of a college student,shes 18 yrs old and haveing alot of stress issues regarding full time student working full time and paying her rent truck etc... she went to the dr about a heart related issue and she asked to move home , my husband thinks she is just saying that and hes very jeoulse (cant spell ) any way im haveing a very difficult time pleasing everyone .By the way my daughter is not his.Hes makeing life missriable plese help any answeres??? Thanks a concerning mom who wantsthe best for her child!!
2007-02-28 06:08:16 · 7 answers · asked by Leslie F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if she wants to move back home she should be able to cause ain't you her mom and you are the person that reased her? you should tell your husben that it ain't his dishion to say if your doughter can move back in or not and if she needs to move back in cause shes about to hit rock bottom then let her move back in
2007-02-28 06:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by Chevy Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is going through a stressful time in her life and you are helping her get healthy again. It doesn't sound like she's trying to manipulate anyone, and it's important that right now she finish school and make her way into adulthood, and then she will be able to live on her own and start her own life and family.
What's important is that you have special time with your husband. Have date nights, have friends over for poker nights, and so forth. He needs to understand that your daughter needs help right now. Jealousy is a very ugly emotion, and he needs to be able to see what her purpose of living at home is. It's not to take his place, it's to get healthy again and pave her way to a positive future.
Your daughter is important and can't be replaced. I hope your husband stops feeling jealous (which is also selfish behaviour), because husbands can come and go, and be replaced. Our children can not. If he doesn't stop his feelings, he could create a toxic environment and that would end up being unhealthy for you.
2007-02-28 14:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child comes first your husband will just have to deal with it, you cant but him first over your child, it sounds like she really needs you at this point in time. If you dont let her move home she might never forgive you and she might drop out of college and you did say you want the best for her, stand up to your husband and tell him she comes first.
2007-02-28 14:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by Annemarie E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok hun. If your daughter is having problems with her heart then she should be able to come home for awhile until she knows what she really wants to do. Or you need to tell her that its not going to be like this in the real word. She can rely on you for somethings. But what is she going to do when your not there to help her. It sounds like to me that she isn't really ready to move away. I'm not saying that she is lying about her heart condition. Its just she needs to stay where she is at and if she needs help you can help.
2007-02-28 14:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by Briann M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now if the Dr. says she needs to be home for awhile the do it. IF not just try to help her in anyways she needs u are her mom and as for your man, he should be by your side.
2007-02-28 14:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by shorty21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her why do you want to come home? if she really needs you you have to be there for her she is your child and you brought her into this world she should come before anyman.
2007-02-28 14:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by abigailsmommy05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should go to school also.You sould not worry about her and worry about YOURSELF.what im trying to say is ''your spelling sucks''
2007-02-28 14:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by shouldnotlaugh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋