How do you pick up the pieces when your still trying to hold to the whole?

Question

I am a 34 year old man madly in love with a woman that is 25. We have been together for nearly 4 years now. Happy for the most part never unhappy. Everyone knew we where in love they said they could see it. The problem here is her family doesnt feel I am good enough for her and they have been shoving a wedge between us the whole time. Well that wedge finally split us apart. She got a good job in a town far from here and I thought we were moving together but found out differently. Her mother has a very strong control over parts of her life that she cant break free. even living hundreds of miles away We lived together for 2.5-3 years and I thought we would live together forever. She decided that she wanted to move alone and that was fine then the night before she left she told me she thought it should be over. that was thanksgiving night exactly two yrs after my dad died. BAD TIME! Gone now Im alone and nothingness set in. Why would someones mom be like this? She never gave me a chance.

Answer 1

Mothers want the best for their daughters, not that I'm trying to defend her for driving you and your love apart, but sometimes their pride can come before their understanding. Sometimes family can be helpful in pointing out problems that the individual wouldn't see for years down the road, so family has the right to give their opinions. However, you should find out what was really the reason she left, and if its something you can work on then you can try it. If its not, then you just have to move on, don't pick up the pieces, blow them away.

Answer 2

It is hard to imagine but love does have a way to diminish over time. Due to many reasons. You just count your blessings as you could have gotten married to her and she would have had half of what you have now. Look, it could have been her mother, or she just got tired of you. It could have been a lot of things including her parents. But rest assured, it was part of you too as if she really loved you like you think, she would have walked thru burning buildings to save your relationship and love. It may not be what you want to hear but if it is right you may be back but it sounds like you two were padding up hill in a deluged of falling water. It hurts I know, many of us know. But this is what makes a man a man. There are a lot of other females out there that will appreciate your new found singularity. Morn your loss after you get tired of being in the nothingness state, go out and get back into the game. You control your life not her.

Answer 3

You can't blame the Mom. Your girlfriend didn't have strong enough feelings for you or she would be with you now, no matter what her Mother said!!! You just have to accept that fact so you can move on. It just means someone better is out there for you! You may miss her if you keep yourself down about the one that left!!! So put on your happy face and go meet the girl of your dreams!!!

Answer 4

you sometimes find the future mum in law is jealous of her kids getting married off and leaving them.
which she should understand that one day she will have to get married,and even when she gets married she may just stick her nose in.
but as you said,your girlfriend is 25,i think she is old enough to make her own descions,dont you think?
i mean,she isnt a silly 18 year old.
im sorry to hear of your troubles,but i do hope you try to get yourself back to normal,dont sit around thinking,its not good for you.get yourself out and about and treat yourself and meet new people
good luck
p.s. there are plenty more fish in the sea!

Answer 5

Move on it may be hard at 1st but it will do u some good. IF she really loved u should would not have cared what her mom thinks of u..

Answer 6

I no what you feel like but the reason why her mother is like that is cause she wants to be in her bissness all the time and her mom proble found out that when you all were together she couldn't be in her bissness

Answer 7

Ask her why it over.