We met 2 yrs ago online...and he lived about an hr and a half away then..he moved in with me and my parents because the distance sucked plus my brother just died and he wanted to help me with everything..he also has 2 kids with his ex wife who lives near the area where he used to live they shared custody..he would see them twice a week..well shes an unfit mom as he came to realize because she hasnt had a job for 3 years, has a boyfriend who we found out is a sex offender, and she wanted to move 7 hrs away to top it off....so he is taking her to court for full custody but that means he would have to move back there..we were planning an october wedding plus moving into our own apartment..but now i dont know what to do..should we try to stay together and deal with the distance again?? thanks for helping.
2007-02-28 05:56:13 · 15 answers · asked by fruitofsea1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
***i can't move closer to him because of my job...its a small company and i love working there..he works at a supermarket where he could relocate if needed..
2007-02-28 07:11:27 · update #1
***And he has to move where he used to live because his family is near the area and they want to be near the kids plus he needs them to babysit and stuff...thanks to everyone who responded.
2007-02-28 07:14:43 · update #2
I think you should put your relationship on hold until he sorts his life out and gets a handle on the situation with the kids. The kids' wellbeing are more important right now. Postpone your plans with him.
2007-02-28 05:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could do one of two things, try the distance thing and see how it goes with that, or you could move with him. His children are the most important thing right now if the mother lives with a sex offender.
2007-02-28 06:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by me m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Filing for sole custody doesn't mean he has to live where heuse to he could file where he lives now that don't make any sense..And a registered sex offender is not suppose to be around kids at all he can be arrested.
2007-02-28 06:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by Denny O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should move with him if he is that important to you. WHether or not you want to deal with that distance is up to you and him. Ask him what he wants to do.
It may be best to break it off. Sounds like there's a looooot of baggage there that's going to be making you crazy for the rest of your days if you stay with him.
Best of luck.
2007-02-28 06:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by gibsonpyro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't your fiance get a judge to order her to stay where she's at and not move?
It sounds like it would be beneficial if you and your man would get married, and get a home of your own. Perhaps then he could get his children away from his ex and give them a decent life.
I wish you well!
2007-02-28 06:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are even considering breaking up with him at this time, then do so. You obviously have no love for this man. He moved in with you when you needed him, and now when he needs you, you want to run? Go ahead run. He deserves better.
2007-02-28 05:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a lot of baggage to bring into a marriage, i'd be worried more about that than the distance. the distance is no big deal, where there is will there is always a way.
2007-02-28 06:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say yes, he seems to be a good person, moving to be with you, to help you get through your loss...and a strong man who is fighting for his kids. Be there for him, and your relationship..if it's worth is, wait...then get married in October. I think you'll be happy with waiting, eventhough it is hard. I've been there. It seems like you can do it.
2007-02-28 05:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go to court with him so yall can get his kids and let her move were ever she is going to go and yall can live yall lives.
2007-02-28 06:01:23 · answer #9 · answered by Dr.LOVE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there any chance you could move closer to him?
I'll check back for added details, then add more depending on your answer!
2007-02-28 05:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋