Hi two months ago I was physically attacked(Don't worry he went to jail and registered as an offender, and I'm completely healed) at the dorms.
Anyway almost two years later, I find myself wanting to go in that room I was attacked in. An aquaintance of mine lives there but how do I get him to let me come in without telling him what happened and why I wanna be in there.
I wanna be in there so I have a new memory of what the room looks like now. If that makes sense. Thanks,.
I was thinking maybe ask if I can come in and if he does, ask what he thinks about interracial dating, but I'm not even interested in him so that's a bad idea right?
2007-02-28 05:53:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That room never was my room.
2007-02-28 05:57:37 · update #1
Don't clutter your life with lies, stories and fabrications. You endured an attack, and there is nothing wrong with telling the current resident in that dorm room the truth. Don't get over dramatic or he'll think you're a tweaker. Just tell him that you had an unpleasant experience in that room in the past, and that it would help you in your efforts to get past it if you had some good visions of that room to replace the bad ones. Ask him if he's mind if you came in and hung out for a few minutes.
If you try to fake him out and come up with some bogus story, it'll just confuse the poor guy, and make things worse. Don't drag him into your issues just because he happens to be in that dorm room. Good luck!
2007-02-28 06:05:23 · answer #1 · answered by moosviews4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I commend you for your strength and determination. Not every young woman has found the ability to move on. First of all, I don't recommend that you go alone. You don't know for sure what the flood of emotions will be, when you do enter the room. Take a good friend along. They night not even be aware of why you want to go there, but, a true friend will be more than happy to accompany you. Now, for the pretense. The simplest approach is usually the best. You can ask him if you could see the room, because of some memories you have connected with it. No further explanation should be required. It isn't an outrageously ridiculous request. In fact, I have done the same thing in the past, in connection with homes that I have previously owned. And, others have made the same request of me over the years. Offer the owner only superficial information, and, a sincere Thank-you, when you leave. It might be nice to follow up by mailing a Thank-You card to him, without a return address.
I hope that I have helped.
Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-28 15:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by Pastor Jeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need an excuse? Are you ashamed that you have healed to the point where you want closure?
You should be proud that you have made it through this journey. The truth will prove you to be a stronger person than any lie could. Also, the current occupant of the room will learn more from you sharing your REAL journey than he would from a lie.
Congratulations on not only being a survivor, but a victor. Have pride in sharing this with another person.
2007-02-28 13:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by JS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are trying to find closure on this you say that you are fine but subconsciously you are searching for something. Good luck and if you do go back there, stick with counseling to help you heal I don't think anyone gets over a tragic ordeal like that.
2007-02-28 14:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, seriously....you are a college student and you haven't figured out that being honest is always your best bet?? If you wanna make it dramatic and make up a lie just be ready to lie to cover that lie. And what if you freak out...how you gonna cover that up?? Just tell the dude the truth. If that dosent work....well then your gonna have to sleep with him.. (joking, well kinda)
2007-02-28 14:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by starbrite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋