I spent every wakeing moment for this one girl, and completely rearanged the rest of my life, just so she can wake up one day and decide to change everything that she had been promising me, and got myself in a pickle. I'm still young, but now don't know what I want to do or where to go. I don't see the point to life n/e more. I know she will regret this, she already does. But I don't trust her n/e more, and am not willing to go through all of that again. I have a chance to start a new life in my homestate, but I have nothing to look forward to. What should I do, I'm not upset or mad, but I'm just really lost.
2007-02-28 05:47:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u have your whole life to live, loosing someone we love will steal our joy and gusto for life if we let it. if u do not trust her anymore, and do not want to take the chance of hurt, begin a new life somewhere else, get away from what is hurting u, time and distance help alot. don't give anyone the power to think for u or arrange your life, she made promises and she did not keep them, u put too much faith in her, believing everything u were told. in every life this will happen, we actually grow from out hurts, we learn by them. definitely leave for awhile see what life shows u elsewhere, your not tied to her, your hurt right now, and think u have no future because of this one disappointment, but it really isn't true. go away for awhile see where it takes u in life, date others, live your life, u have had a disappointment, but there will be many such things in your life so get used to it, and handle it. one bad relationship does not mean all hope is lost young man.
2007-02-28 06:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't waste the rest of your life, you still have it in front of you. People and their feelings sometimes change. There are no guaranties. It is better to go through this with her now than five years from now. I don't blame you for not wanting to go through it all again, so dont. You have to think that regardless of how cliche' this is, that everything happens for a reason and maybe it's because there is someone better for you that you haven't found yet. Maybe in your home state! No one is so superior that they should make you feel like there is no point in life anymore, that's just sad! Relationships are a compromise, 50-50, you should never have to rearrange your whole life for anyone. Kick her to the curb, move on.
2007-02-28 06:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by iluvshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick yourself up and start over. There are other girls out there. It may not seem like you could love again right now, but, you will. Time heals all wounds. So, just keep yourself busy. Do not sit around and sulk. Eventually, the feeling of being lost will fade and you will find that you just might enjoy being single again. Take it from and ol'lady. I've had my heart broken numerous times and thought that I'd never get over it. But, I did. And you know what. I have a good husband now. I'm happy and my life is pretty good.
2007-02-28 05:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really glad that you're not considering going back to this person that hurt you, just because she regrets it. It's normal to feel like you have nothing to look forward to since you're built your life around this person. You have all of your eggs in one basket.
Start a new life in your home state. Once you get out of your current environment, things will look different. It will take time but you will build a life without this girl. Be picky, choosey and don't settle. You sound like you have a lot to give. Just don't give it too easily or you may find yourself in the same situation. Good luck and pat yourself on the back for being strong enough not to be swayed by HER regrets!
2007-02-28 05:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did changes for her and for yourself. try not to think that it was all for her and the time was wasted. i am sure you did it for good reasons and you had good time with her. everything happens for a reason and let's think they're for good reasons. we made our best decisions based on the situation and conditions back then. but that will never guarantee the best outcome or a forever love. i think you should just try not to regret and know that you made a wonderful decision based on where you were and things didn't last or work out as you plan and you move on. live at present moment. make each moment now a happy and fulfilling one. find some new hobbies, get to know new friends, donate time for charities, care for people who are in need and enjoy your life. think of what you have instead of what you don't or lose. we only have one life. embrace what you have and enjoy them instead of thinking the opposite. after all, we live in the world our minds create! i hope you find your path and move on to "another" happy path!
2007-02-28 05:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar experience when I was in my early 20's several decades ago. Time does indeed heal all wounds. Even this one. Remain active. Don't isolate. Go out with friends. Pamper yourself a bit. This is only a temporary setback in the grand scheme of things.
2007-02-28 05:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, Just keep things together. Pay your bills, go to work, shop for groceries, and give it some time. Eventually you'll fall into a new (and better if you learn from this) life.
Be glad she's gone because she doesn't care about you and would be making you miserable right now if she was around.
2007-02-28 07:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't wast the rest of your life yet. Find a new chick and move on
2007-02-28 05:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
highly ordinary answer but " time will heal it"
bcuz honestly there isnt much u can do abt it.. y did she leave u?
2007-02-28 05:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by ninjagal3000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go gay, it's the only way.
2007-02-28 05:52:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋