Love is "forever".
A marriage is "forever".
Many of us believe that our relationship will last forever. Some of us have relationships that last for the rest of our lives.
I think that it is better to make a commitment of a specific length and stick to it. At the end of that time period the couple honestly evaluates the past time and choose to- or not to -renew the relationship.
A "hand-fasting" is a ritual (like marriage) in front of friends and family. You make a promise to give your everything to making your relationship work for a certain period of time (usually a year). The couple make a new commitment every year on their anniversary.
Like marriage it is a binding contract of love. It is also a short term accomplishable goal. If you break the commitment, you not only lose the relationship, you prove that you are not mature enough yet to make a promise that lasts a whole year well enough a life time.
2007-02-28 05:43:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems more boys than girls are confused by this idea.
2007-02-28 06:01:42 · update #1
A marriage is a legal contract with no condluding date. Divorce is artificial closing of the legal contract when one or both paries are dissatisfied. It takes a minimum of 6 months (or longer) of legal sepperation before a divorce becomes legal.
I know I have been through it.
2007-02-28 06:06:00 · update #2
I have never heard of this but i like it.. Awesome idea.. At least you can get out if you need to but you give a promise for a year and you know that for a year you will stay together through everything and if at the end of the year it is not what you wanted you can end it.. I think that's a great idea.. THANKS
2007-02-28 05:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A hand fasting and a marriage are pretty much the same things, but with a hand fasting you don't get all the nifty benefits of being married, like health insurance and tax credit. I am going to be hand fasting and married the "proper" way. It is also mainly for pagans, hand fasting is seen as a pagan ritual which it is, but yeah so that is why a lot of people don't do it They are starting to give rights to couples that hand fasted the same rights as those married by a justice of the peace but that is still being worked on.
In conclusion they are pretty much the same thing, Hand fasting should not be looked upon as something they can get out of in a year, and I personally think to break a hand fast is worse then to divorce. To get married is to sign a piece of paper, to get hand fasted is to show that you are ready for this huge event.
2007-02-28 05:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like a good philosophy. I don't know if I want to get amrried because of how marrieages turn out nowadays. This sounds like a good medium.
In a way, it also sounds like muslim marriage. the couple can say I want a divorce. After three months, it doesn't work out, the divorce is final.
I think for real though, people do what ever they watn and that's why marriages don't mostly work (or end up happy)
2007-02-28 05:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is between one man and one woman. It is sacred. "Hand-fasting" is paganist degredation of marriage because it allows for poligomy.
And your name is blasphemous.
I read your profile. This question isn't about love and relationships. You're trying to push a pagan agenda here.
2007-02-28 05:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by penhead72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever works for you
2007-02-28 05:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh???
2007-02-28 05:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by Brad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋