I'm 19, and I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 3 years now. She's 18 and has been living in USA for almost her entire life, but I came here last year, and I knew her before I came, and we had a long distance internet relationship going on. The main reason I came here was for her. We are really happy with each other and we love each other like crazy, and we plan to get married after I graduate. However, her mom is obsessed with her getting married to a doctor. I'm majoring in Economics, and my girlfriend's majoring in Pharmacy. Her mom was okay with me in the beginning. However, recently she has been telling her to stop talking to me because according to her, my girlfriend can't decide who she'll marry, and it doesn't matter if she's happy or not, it's her mother's decision, and the guy has to be a doctor. Her mom never even saw me and doesn't know anything about me, and I'm sure if she got to know me and my family and my background, she will like me. But for now, what'd i do?
2007-02-28 05:36:31 · 5 answers · asked by BaSsMassttaaa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't do anything except talk to your GF. Where this goes is really up to her. If she cares for you and it sounds like she does she's needs to tell her mother that she is going to continue seeing you. I assume you are in the US. Your GF is an adult and who she marries is up to her not her mother.
Good Luck
2007-02-28 05:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very messed up situation. At first i was thinking, do you really want to be apart of a family where the mother is so controlling, and doesn't accept you? then i read the rest of your situation and i changed my mind. Maybe you should be grown about it and try to make a date to go to dinner or come over for dinner to meet the mom, then maybe let her know when the girlfriend leaves you alone with the mom for a moment , what your intentions are, and what kind of goals you have in life, help her to get to know you, and don't be too stiff, but don't be cocky. Just let it be known that you have very strong feelings for her daughter and that you would only try your best to keep her happy. Sometimes by expressing your true inner feelings, people see you in a different light ya know? if this is possible i think you should try it. and don't forget your manners. Good luck.
2007-02-28 05:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart listen...I am not going to down you or anything like that but you need to talk to your girlfriend. Explain to her that she's old enough to make her own decisions and that she doesn't need her mother to make her decisions for her.
My mom tried doing that and i explain to my mom that my grandmother couldn't make her be with someone she didn't want to be with so she needed to let me be with whom ever it was i wanted to be with. Tell your girlfriend to let her mom know that she can't tell her what to do anymore. Now if she doesn't stick up for you or anything then there is something wrong. I mean i know i wouldn't let my mom talk about my boyfriend. I will tell her that she can't judge without knowing. I agree she probably will like you if she got to know you. And it's part your girlfriends fault she should talk to her mom and tell her how you are and how you treat her. Some mothers major fear is that someone won't treat her girl right. So make sure that your girl talks to her mom and sets a day so you can meet them and she can meet your family.
2007-02-28 05:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Miss Self-Sufficient 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as a mother... I can tell you this.... no one no one is good enough for my little girl.lol... and whats the rush in getting married? I dont think anyone should get married so young.... date.... see how things go in 5 yrs.... in the meanwhile as u date her.. show her ur true colors then maybe she will like you... as for u moving there for her is a scary thought....and as a mother the first thing i would want is to meet who my daughter is dating....
2007-02-28 05:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by gina B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well just remember that after 18 she can choose who to marry. her mom seems like a butt. just dont make her choose between u and her mom cause then shell feel sad that u actaully want her to choose and she might not choose you
2007-02-28 05:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋