if they are good people going through hard times,would you loan or give them money?
2007-02-28 05:31:31 · 7 answers · asked by stormy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i would give them the money,but in return i would barter with them,i.e.if the husband is handy,i would have him help me with something like that,or if the wife had a trade,i would utilize her talents.i believe that something for nothing ,is worth nothing,so i think they would feel better if they could do something ,non-monetary in return.imho!
2007-02-28 05:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by WHAT 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you choose to help you can expect it to be gift because when you loan people money sometimes they dont recover fast enough to pay you when you need it. Besides, chances are a loan ruins the friendship as well. I have given friends money many times and told them I dont expect you to pay me back but w/e you can give back would be nice. Most true friends will give you a 20 here or there or pick up the tab if you go somewhere.
Instead of loaning money I have also done the following, for friends with kids I would go shopping and put the basics in the fridge about 50 bux. For someone who is a few days short of payday for gas to get to work I would fill up the tank in a small car or give them 40 bux in gas. Anything else its up to you to decide if your willing to INVEST in them. Do they invite you for dinner? would they do the same for you? Would they voluntarely TRY to pay you back? Hope it helps some.
2007-02-28 13:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by krazyyybiotchh! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely I'd do everything I could to help them out, I don't believe that the best way to lose a friend is to loan money. I've loaned money to plenty of friends and gotten paid back in a reasonable manner. I've also received loans from friends and paid them back in a reasonable manner.
There are all kinds of circumstances that people need money and go through hard times. It's all in how much you trust the other person to pay you back. If you can truly track their progress and they are making every other effort to get by and conserve spending, then there's not as much harm in helping them out. They clearly need it.
On the other hand, if a friend told me he was going through hard times and I loaned him $100, I would demand it back immediately if he then bought a new stereo for his car or a new jacket for himself. That's a luxury, not a necessity. I would expect anyone to whom I loaned money to spend it on groceries, fuel, utilities, rent, or insurance. The basic expenses, that's it.
I'd like to think of myself as a generous person, and if a friend needed extra help to pay for the basic needs (if they had gotten those expenses as low as they possibly could), then I would loan them the money if I had it available. One less weekend out at the bar is not going to hurt me as much as a full week of groceries is going to help him/her.
2007-02-28 13:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give it to them, the best way to lose a friend is to loan them money.
2007-02-28 13:35:20 · answer #4 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would loan it to them if they are trustworthy.
2007-02-28 13:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, if I had to give, I would definitely lend it...I really would not expect it it back. If they paid it back good if not no love lost.
2007-02-28 13:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by sugaflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had it, I'd give it to them.
2007-02-28 13:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋