If you were to grieve over a divorce, how long would you say is long enough before you move on and find someone else to share your life with? I have had 2 divorces but each one was for a different reason, the first one my husband chose drugs over me and our daughter, and the 2nd one, he became violent so I got out while I still could. I really didnt grieve over either of them, I was just thanking God I was alive. They just didnt seem like a loss to me but I have a friend who is getting a divorce today and we have been seeing each other for a while now and he says he needs to grieve over this, which I can totally respect but how long is long enough? Just curious over your answers....
2007-02-28 05:13:37 · 16 answers · asked by Debbie F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Each person is different as each situation is different, like you said, you were glad you lost yours....
Maybe he still loves her...it will take about 2-3 months and some good company...not romantic...
2007-02-28 05:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no specific time frame in which people go through and then are fine. It is really different for each person and a lot of it depends on the situation surrounding the divorce. I think everyone should take some time after a divorce to just learn to be alone again and to deal with what happened. To many people a divorce can feel like a death. It depends on how long the marriage lasted also. My Mom and Dad were divorced after 25 yrs of marriage. My Mom still isn't over it but my Dad has already remarried. It's been about 4 or 5 yrs since their divorce. Other people jump right back in to a relationship and carry on as if nothing happened. I do think though that you have to deal with it at some point in your life. Let him have some time to adjust, it probably won't take him too long since you have already been seeing each other. Just be patient with him and let him talk if he needs to. He'll appreciate you understanding and being supportive. Good luck to you both.
2007-02-28 05:34:35 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A whole year. Some people may think that a year is not long, but, a year comes and goes before you know it.
So, that is my answer. A year. You just going through a second divorce. I do not know how long you were married for and how long your first divorce was finalized before you got married, then you never really gave yourself time. Everyone grieves over a divorce, even a seperation. I mean, you need to stay alone for a while for the sake of your daughter and just get to know what YOU like, not what you and someone else like. Wake up alone in the morning, get in your own routine down. Then, after a year or so, start dating again. Just get time alone for yourself.
2007-02-28 05:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how long they were married, and what caused the divorce. I personally know if I was to divorce my husband, I would probably never get over it, he is my soul mate. They say it is like 2 weeks for everyone 6 months they were together. So if they were married 10 years and knew each other for 2 before that that would be 48 weeks, so almost a year. if he truly thought that she was going to be the one forever and that didn't work it might take a lot longer than that. I would give him the space he needs and not try to force him into anything. There is no long enough, and it is all up to the individual.
2007-02-28 05:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is really no time limit on grieving, the more one cared the more time it is going to take to get past it. just be there when your friend needs some emotional support. sometimes it isn't even the person we are grieving, but a life, or the future we believed we had with this person, it may just be how we felt about the person that hurts us. we all have our own realities that we deal with. but the sooner we can get back to life, and at least pretend we are normal the better off we are. your divorces weren't a loss, but hers may be.
2007-02-28 05:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no time line as everyone is different. Give him space, he'll let you know when he's ready to move on. You didn't grieve your marriages because you had nothing to grieve. Congratulations on not staying in an abusive relationship.
2007-02-28 05:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is going to be different for every person. There are so many deciding factors. Like how they still feel about their ex-spouse, what happened, what's currently going on, circumstances, and lots of other things.
Everyone's needs are different.
I can't even imagine being divorced from my husband, if we were, it would just devastate me.
He needs to take whatever time he feels he needs, and only he can determine that.
2007-02-28 05:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can say that accurately. It depends on many factors, including personality, after divorce issues, for how long the marriage lasted, etc
2007-02-28 05:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mark N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If His wife died how long would you allow him to grieve? My husband died.....my divorced friends say it's about the same
2007-02-28 05:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get mixed up with somebody who's dealing with issues from their divorce still.
I think you are repeating the mistake in your first divorce: caretaker, codependent behavior/trying to help somebody.
Source(s): experience.
2007-02-28 05:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋