lately,i feel that i am over reacting in everything, i get this feeling a bad one, i evan think about other ppls opinions so much, the color that i love is red, but when some of my friends told me they dont like it, i started to hate it , and hate myself too, i love the sky ,nature , but when i heard something about some group of ppl ( i cant list them )i started to hate it too ,and i ask my self why am i feeling this way, i am being so sensitive and i always over react , i dont know how did this happened to me , how can i reduce it? or not caring about ppls thoughts and opinions?
2007-02-28 05:08:42 · 14 answers · asked by jimi 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
your not overreacting, just alittle paranoid and care alittle too much about what people think. you just have to realise that your opinion is valid andpeople wont hate you for it. when it happens again force your self to speak up and then you wont be so afraid of your own opinion.
2007-02-28 05:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by chatterbox15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a teen I had a similar problem.
It has to do with the fear of not fitting in, even if you don't think that you are struggling with this, you are.
You need to realise that you are you, you have to find what you like and stick with it. You are sorta trying to please everyone, by imitating what they like and thinking the way thy think.
I don't know how old you are but, I would say that you are probably going through a change in your life and you don't know how to deal with it, you are frantically looking for yourself, but you are looking in other people to find it.
:) for one day, try this: every time you hear an opinion about something, ask yourself-What do I think about this? How do I feel about this? Totally disregard how other people feel about it, just observe, you don't have to tell any one, but it will help you have a sense of self and maybe you will start searching for what you want, instead of caring so much about what other people want.
Good luck to you figuring it all out!
2007-02-28 13:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, you appear to be mistrusting yourself. I suggest you work hard to convince yourself that you are somebody, entitled to your own opinions (assertively but not aggressively), worth as much as anybody else, and MOST IMPORTANTLY able to cope with others' comments, opinions and criticisms.
From there you will be in a stronger position to build up a less reactive personality. There are many books available which teach one how to develop more mental strength to deal with what to you are currently difficult situations. It may seem odd but "talking to yourself" is one of the best - a sort of self-hypnosis - there are two parts to your brain and the "bit" that wants to improve, give up smoking, be fitter etc. can talk the doing part into huge improvements in how you cope, react, do better.
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2007-02-28 13:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by 9thwonder 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as though you're not over-sensitive, but instead lack confidence in your opinions. Your value as a person comes not from what others in life think of you, but what you think of yourself. It may do you some good to talk with a counselor to learn a little about how to stand on your own opinions while still being able to listen to those of others.
2007-02-28 13:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by uhnuftaliveon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is all about self esteem. the more you think about yourself the less others' opinions will matter. take a deep breath and count to ten or hundred... and then you can be nmore rational
:)) we've all been there
Look in the mirror every morning and look into your eyes and remind yourself how unique and special u r. Also helps if you start having a thoughts journal to write down how you feel and then why.
2007-02-28 13:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think alot of people feel the same way that you do. You might be feeling that if your friends find out that you don't feel the same way about what they like or dislike that they won't accept you. I think the best you could do is always be yourself. If everyone liked the same things and disliked the same things the world would be boring. Try to remember that your friends will like you for who you are not cause of your interests. Try to accept yourself. ( love yourself). Think of all the good qualities you have. I hope I have helped you.
2007-02-28 13:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by sweetlittlemama2006 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Spend time thinking about yourself; your likes and dislikes. remind yourself each day that you are important and your opinion matters. Listen to other points of view but take time to think before you either agree or disagree. Make sure you have a balanced diet as a lack of minerals can affect your perception.
2007-02-28 13:28:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When something like that happens, consider the source. Normally the source is relatively insignificant. Don't fight it, just ignore it. Life is full of potential fight situation, we only have so much fight in us, pick yours wisely.
2007-02-28 16:23:00 · answer #8 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to love yourself and value your own mind and opinions.
2007-02-28 13:14:20 · answer #9 · answered by ambertottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are displaying some of the classic symptoms of clinical depression, you should see your doctor.
2007-02-28 13:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by Cathyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋