my soon to EX-Wife is trying to keep our 2 young kids from me and only wants to let me see them 2 times a month and before her mom got involved she wanted me to keep them now we are going through a BIG court battle I am trying to keep the kids out of court so they dont have to hurt as much but my wife wont let me so if you have any advice please let me know
2007-02-28 05:06:00 · 11 answers · asked by danielkairijacob 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not women being mean, it's people using their kids as a 'tool' during their divorce. One person has control and doesn't want to lose it....... it is dipicable to do this to children. Keep your cool and no matter how hard it is, be calm and realistic during this difficult time. Usually when one spouse is playing games and being unreasonable regarding visitation, the judge sees that and takes that into consideration when ruling. Also, never talk badly about your ex in front of the kids, keep a journal as a record of things that have happened, said, etc.... and try to keep your visits with the kids as upbeat as you can. All this drama is so damaging to them and even though it sounds like it is her fault, you can still help by being a calm, stable, reassuring presense in their lives. Good luck....
2007-02-28 05:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1- Get a very good lawyer to represent you. Expensive but worth it.
2- File for joint/shared custody. If you live in the same town as your wife, you could ask for the kids to alternate weekly from your house and then her house. Then you would see them equally. Holiday schedule would alternate yearly. One year you get them for Christmas and the next year your wife would have them etc.
3- Always, always always, ask for full custody. Even if you think you can not get it.
4- Usually if your children are under the age of 12, they will be kept out of the court process. Too traumatic for them. But, that's not to say that they can not be involved in certain circumstances.
2007-02-28 13:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it is our nature. Have 2 x chromosomes and not anything else in the mix. The y chromosome makes people more mellow, I guess. Anywho. Tell your wife to start acting like an adult and take your kids into consideration. Although she is probably saying that she is and that it is in their best interest to see what kind of dad you are. Sometimes the best thing to do is to have it out, the kids are most likely hurting more than you realize. Make sure you get counseling for them after this whole mess is cleared up. Good luck!
2007-02-28 13:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by ESTamez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your situation is difficult and is no good for the kids I understand you, try to speak with your ex wife in a peaceful way, if she still doesn't want you to see your kids fight for them on the court I'm sure they're going to understand your position they surely miss daddy too.
2007-02-28 13:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Annette E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this..because of ONE woman, you are accusing MOST of the 3+ billion women on the planet of being mean? DUDE, when did you have time to meet over 1.5 billion women?????
All people can be mean at one time or another, some more than others...women (in general) aren't mean as a sex.
Sorry you and your soon-to-be-ex are having issues, but please don't let that color your view of "most" females. If you do, you'll have a seriously difficult time having a successful relationship in the future.
2007-02-28 13:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I believe you see people's true colors once they are out of your life. But the children are involved, so your wife needs to get past her bad feelings toward you and realize she needs to be adult about this situation. Try talking calmly with her about it. Tell her you dont care if the two of you cant get along, but the kids do NOT need to be dragged into it or suffer because of her behavior.
2007-02-28 13:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by rantfactory 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
definately let it go to court for joint custody. the judge will grant you equal time with your kids and there won't be a darn thing she can do to change it unless she claims and proves you to be unfit.if you want them living with you and her to get visits then ask for full custody and she will get her visits. and don't forget to ask for child support. if the kids are very young they will not need to be there.
and it is not women in general being mean it is an ex being mean and most all ex's male and female fight dirty.
2007-02-28 13:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by jezbnme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to court and be honest with the judge. A fair judge will give a fair ruling on custody/visitation.
2007-02-28 13:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by Nicnac 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some women are just b itches. Not all, but some.
2007-02-28 13:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by Honest 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It's called a period.
2007-02-28 13:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋