http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,254904,00.html
This is a very bizarre article about the increase in narcissism in our youth because their parents told them they were special. The experts are concerned this will naegatively affect the trends in social behavior. So their answer is to stop telling your kids they are special? Won't this also negatively affect social behavior?
All opinions welcome.
2007-02-28 04:56:33 · 7 answers · asked by smellyfoot ™ 7 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
I think the main problem is these children never see defeat..they play on teams where every kid gets a medal....I tell my kid he is special in his own way and I think that is okay as long as the know diappointment and loss as well....they need to know how to be good winners and losers and that is what society is missing right now.
2007-02-28 07:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Mothers today are obsessed with their own kids and dote on them all of the time.
They give up their own lives, jobs and even their husbands just to be on the beck and call of their kids. They feel guilty saying no and disciplining their kids. So instead of being a good parent and do what is best or right for their kid they let their guilt take over and give in to the kids every want - which is so harmful.
This is why kids are so narcissistic.
It is good for a kids to see their mother leading a happy and successful life.
2007-02-28 13:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by rickybobbi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
'Special' seems to have been redefined by overzealous parents as more important. It's been drilled into every kids' brain as well that if they ever want to succeed in life they have to stand out, be the best, earn the most money.
Whatever happened to 'be the best you can be' or finding your OWN happiness?
Telling your kids that they're special to YOU isn't detrimental, it's when they have it in their heads that they're more special than anyone else that causes the problem.
2007-02-28 13:18:11 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlin M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We harm our kids' lives when we tell them they are special AND our kids conclude and behave as if they are far more important than other people/kids.
We've probably done that.
Right?
(I bet lots of parents are concerned at how their own kids don't have closer bonds to their peers. Why don't our kids "admire" and want to be close to their peers?)
A child should in large part feel special for the good things he/she does. Hitler shouldn't have been told he was special while he was in the middle of murdering millions of people.
2007-02-28 13:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by duck 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
we plan to tell our baby 'you are loved'. and he is special! no one else will bring the joy to our lives that he will when he is born. special= unique and individual? you bet it does, but it's far more important to us to know that HE knows that he is loved, and is surrounded by people who love him. we'll make sure of that.
experts or not, you can't tell me there's anything wrong with doing that. why must there always be a cause or an excuse for every kind of negative behavior?
2007-02-28 21:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by patzky99 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've never told my kid's they are special,i love them and show them love,i praise them when they've done something good,but i also chastise them when they do wrong.
2007-02-28 14:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by Countess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
l believe telling your child he's special in a good way is good.Special don't mean bad it mean doing things that some people cant do.
2007-02-28 13:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jersey G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋