Why does he think I can just get ovet it...PART 2?

Question

I asked a question a few minutes ago and got some really good answers. I added some details to the question, but I got most of my answers before I did...so here is anothe rpart. The other woman made SURE I knew about her...even though she is hundreds of miles away. She told me all kinds of things...she claimed to be pregnant....weeks later when I was thinking more clearly I asked her for proof and she said she lost the baby and did not have any, I would just have to take her word for it. She also claims she had an abortion early (like the first few weeks) of their affair for him...I asked for proof...she said she would send it but never did. She said they had sex everyday morning and night. He has admitted to the affair but said over the 9 months he was away they had sex maybe 10 times. I dont know who to believe. I think that it one reason I dont know how to move on all the time. I feel like I dont know what the truth is. I want to believe him, but she has put so much doubt in myhead

Is she just trying to hurt me? I have done NOTHING to her. I should be the one that hates her. She is making it easy to do.

Answer 1

she had hopes that the things she was telling u would cause u and him to come apart, and he would come back to her. think the affair wasn't really all of that, just physical so she put all these so called things in there to make u believe it meant more to him than it did. the woman sounds like a pathological liar, one with no conscience either, or respect of people or for herself. not an ounce of shame in that one. don't let her steal your life, and husband, she has a motive for all of this, she is use to getting what she wants and if one thing don't work she will try something else. i would believe him more than her. he is with u, not her, if he wanted her he would be with her and not u. her intention is to put these doubts in your head, and make u as miserable as she feels. now she wants u to think there was a baby between them, something special they shared that didn't include u. other women are rotten, and will do anything to get the man, they will even show up in your house, when your away, come to where u work with your husband, they will do anything so u know they have the control and u don't, but in your case i think u have the control, think he saw right through her, saw what kind of woman she was, and decided it wasn't for him. but some men as in my ex's case go right along with them, and leave their marriage, thinking she is the answer to all of his troubles.

Answer 2

Hun, you are going to drive yourself crazy trying to figure out who's telling the truth and who isn't. The other woman is jealous because he chose to stay in his marraige. So, she's going to do her best to break it up in hopes that he would come back to her. She's probably unstabile. I would not take her word for it that she was even pregnant. More than likely, she's lying to him and you.You can not obtain an abortion until you are at least 8 weeks pregnant. I work in healthcare.SO, I know. Unless, there was some kind of medical reason for it. Then it would be considered a D and C. The best thing you can do is not talk to this woman. She's not going to tell you the truth. To her, YOU are the other woman. You have something she wants. Your husband. You should be angry with your husband. He knew better. He agreed to this relationship with this woman. He probably promised her a bed of roses and renigged on it. Which is why she is trying very hard to get even with him by telling you all kinds of details, etc. of their relationship. You my dear, are the one who's getting hurt here. Not your husband. This is his mess and he needs to clean it up. I don't think you should believe either one of these people. You will never get the truth out of your husband. He will only tell you what he thinks you want to here. And I've already told you about my thoughts on the mistress. I know you want your marraige to work. But, you should really consider where you are going to be in the next ten years. Can you ever trust him not to have another affair? What if he does? Then what would you do? Forgive him again? It's a vicious cycle. I feel bad for ya. Don't accept this woman's phone calls anymore. It's only making it harder on yourself. You really don't want to hear all those nasty things she has to say. She wants him and is trying to cause chaos in your household. Think of your kids. Doesn't matter how old they are, it will still effect them.

Answer 3

Believe neither of them because they both have a reason to lie. Take what she says every morning and night and take what he says which is ten times and meet it somewhere in the middle mathmatically and that is your awnser. Forget beliving him hes a liar and dont beleieve her because she is a big fat lying cow. Im sorry you have to go through this but do not believe either of them and tell that girl to piss right the hell off and if she contacts you again you will get a restaraining order, you have no reason to keep talking to her.

Answer 4

How is she communicating with you? Sounds like she is trying to rub more salt in your wounds. The first thing that needs to be done is to cease and desist all communication with her. You can't concentrate on fixing your marriage if your constant reminder is contacting you. And take some time with your spouse, get counseling. It is going to take time to heal from your hurt so don't fool yourself into thinking that it will be over quickly, the mind is a strong thing. Good luck!

Answer 5

Why are you tearing yourself down with "details"? He may have had sex with her upside down hanging from the rafters.....who cares.....YOU need to decide for yourself without the other crap if you want to stay in this relationship......Details are for building a nest not tearing it down.

Answer 6

Forget about these fools, do you really want and need all that drama in your life?