I'm friends with a guy and because of schoolwork, we hang out more than the usual these past few days. I didn't know this guy has a gay relationship with someone and this someone just made a scene in front of many people at school. He's accusing me of flirting with his bf. Damn, that was the longest 15 minutes of my life.. His voice was all over the place. Everybody pretended to do something else but I know they're listening. I stayed calm since I didn't want him to make the scene bigger. DAMN, I want revenge now.... now people will speculate I'm gay.
How can I make revenge without him knowing it was me. I can go to any extent, but not really grave ones
2007-02-28 04:53:15 · 25 answers · asked by vkrum1900 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Stop watching Jerry Springer, Have some grace and forget about it ! you are better off without that friend.
2007-02-28 04:56:36 · answer #1 · answered by lisalau 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is living well. The only reason I would be really upset about someone thinking I was gay was if it were true and I was in the 'closet'. Also, revenge is a dish best served cold. In the big picture this is a small annoyance and one of those bumps in the road that we have to deal with. Sure it was embarrassing, but get over it before you make matters worse.
Good luck!
2007-02-28 05:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by Chris H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel like you need to "make revenge", especially "to any extent"?? If the guy had been accusing you of flirting with his girlfriend would you be asking the same question? So what if people speculate?
I think you should just let the whole thing die away, because if you make a big stink about it you're only going to keep the whole subject alive in people's minds, and have them wondering why it's such a big deal to you if it's not true.
2007-02-28 04:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by pookieb 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to hear two sayings on the matter of revenge before I go on:
"Revenge is a dish best served cold", if you wish revenge then you better be able to handle what comes with it.
"When contemplating revenge, remember first to dig two graves, one for your victim and the other for your soul" , consider this quote strongly and then decide, is what happened really worth revenge or do you take a different path, and simply talk to this person and make it clear that what he did was out of line. Seeking revenge only ups the ante and leads to far more trouble than it's worth.
2007-02-28 04:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he already embarassed himself pretty good. The more you get worked up over it, the more people will think you and him really were involved in something. The best thing to do is not hang around him any more, and don't talk to him.
If anybody brings it up or accuses you of being gay, just ignore them. You could also reply "If hanging out with someone gay makes you gay, you must hang out with a bunch of *******..."
2007-02-28 05:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by gotanmp3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is a neverending cycle. It takes a person with good character to say "no more!" Be the mature adult and let it die down.
Btw, the bigger deal you make of this, the more people will believe you are actually gay and trying to cover it up. You need to laugh it off and talk to the guy. Let him know what his bf did so that he can set his bf right.
Good luck!
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2007-02-28 05:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start dating girls....find the prettiest available one, and go from there. Ask several girls for a date, be seen with a lot of different ones, and, make real friends of them. Regarding this hysterical guy, just try and shrug him off, that will annoy him more than anything. Don't waste your energies on a lost cause, as people will see him for what he is, without you trying to put him down. He will only make people mad at him, if he keeps on yapping. Best wishes.
2007-02-28 05:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by tylernmi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to begin i have to say that if you make a big deal of this isolated incident others may feel you are "over-compensating" or covering up! i belive it was shakespear who said; me thinks the girl protesteth too much! anyways.. i would talk with your friend and tell him how you felt about the incident explaining everything, and see if you can get a public apology from his b/f. unless of course you really were flirting!??!?
seriously, above all, no matter who approaches you or asks whatever, remain calm! some ppl just get off seeing another person sweat!
2007-02-28 05:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Who cares what other people think. You and the people that KNOW you do know the truth. I see this as a non-issue. Seriously, in the scheme of life, this is a little moment that you just need to let go and not make something big out of it.
2007-02-28 04:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by Bear 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him and any advances he may make toward you. Let others know that he keeps after you and you're not even interested in a person like him. He will soon feel stupid!
2007-02-28 05:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by Sue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋