i just found out that my boyfriend is bisexual. we love each other so much and he really is the perfect guy for me..but a few hours ago i found this quiz that he took and it asked if he was attracted to people of the same sex and he said yes...i think he knows that i know but i dont know what to do now. he left me a msg saying that he knew i would see the quiz but i havent replied yet... i love him but the whole thing scares me. im really lost now and dont know what to do
2007-02-28 04:48:31 · 10 answers · asked by carcaterra 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Take a step back. Who is he dating? Who does he love? To whom is he committed?
He's a man in love with a woman he considers he can be honest with. A woman he trusts.
Did you trust the man you knew? So what has changed?
So he can find men attractive. Most guys find women attractive but, if they're with their special one, they won't cheat. Why should he cheat on you?
What to do? Nothing different from before you knew he was bi.
If you're still uncomfortable, talk to him - he might be able to help you answer all those questions I've just written.
2007-02-28 05:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that is a scarey situation. Ithink u two should have a really long talk about it. Situations like this could destroy a relationship when u find out that ur bf is bi. And if u feel u cant deal with it then u might be better off. Iknow i had to leave when i found out, i couldn't handle it. But seriously u guys should talk instead of messaging. Goodluck.
2007-02-28 12:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by gurllucky7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are ALL bi-sexual. Some of us just take more alcohol to reveal it.
Young people are full of hormones. It takes a lot of commitment to keep them true to any relationship. If you and he want to be together then focus on your commitment to each other and do not worry about who ELSE you or he are attracted to.
Does it really matter?
My advice for both of you is to be honest with each other (and with yourselves as best you can).
This advice is for anyone in any relationship: BE SAFE.
If you or he are unsure of your relationship or commitment, do NOT have children. Dating is for discovering whether you are compatable with someone else. Children are forever. There is ample proof around you that having a baby does NOT improve a relationship.
Use protection besides birth control. Many STDs can be asymptomatic for long periods of time (have no sympoms to the person that is carrying it) and still be tranmiteed easily. Get tested then still be safe. Many viruses (herpes, HIV, etc) are incurable.
Communicate; talk and listen to eachother on a regular basis. People's needs and emotions can change over time. Grow and change with eachother. A gap between loved ones can grow as they live their day-to-day lives but do not remember to communicate with each other.
2007-02-28 13:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, you lucky girl. I wish my man was bisexual.
First of all, why does this situation scare you? Do you think he is more likely to cheat on you? If that's the case, then it's a security issue, not one of sexuality.
Secondly, are you worried because you have something against same-sex relationships/attraction? If so, then you're going to have to make a decision. You can accept him for who he is, or you can walk away.
Either way, you guys need to talk.
2007-02-28 13:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by calypso_suicide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is simple - you need to sit down and ahve a long conversation with him. Only he can tell you exactly how he feels and exactly what he wants to do and what he wants for the future.
You also have some soul searching - -is this a healthy relationship for you? Are you happy? How do you feel about how he feels?
2007-02-28 12:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing to be scared about. You need to have a talk with him but also consider that there's so much more to explore now.
2007-02-28 13:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by jasgallo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A quiz determined your BF's sexual orientation? Cool...I doubt you have anything to worry about...at least for now.
2007-02-28 12:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like oh my god...
I don't think YOU can or need to do anything.
Sounds like your boy is the one with the issue.
Just let it be.
For some reason we blow sexuality way out of proportion.
2007-02-28 12:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by Papa Mac DaddyJoe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Theres nothing ya can do except talk to him about it all
2007-02-28 13:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by lilshortyjess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as he loves you and is faithful to you and only you, whats the problem?
2007-02-28 12:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋