i am gay and have met a girl who at the moment is just a friend but i realy like her i am not sure if she is gay or not and she doesnt know that i am gay how can i aproach her without ofending her has anyone got any sugestions
2007-02-28 04:36:35 · 13 answers · asked by carolyn g 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
why not tel her that you are gay see how she reacts explain that you don't want to spoil your friendship you may find out that she is gay as well
2007-03-02 05:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could test the waters first: perhaps talk about a gay issue in the news or say you met someone online who's gay.. see what her reaction and opinions are..
I personally wouldn't make a move on her straight away.. it could freak her out and then you could lose her friendship.. Tell her your gay and then see if she feels the same way..
2007-02-28 15:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by Elsie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a move as if you knew she was gay. Even if she is it doesn't mean that she's interested. The bigger issue is is she interested in you as well or not. No sense in wasting time asking questions like do you like women? Would you date a blond? etc. Stop with the 20 questions and ask her what you really want to.
2007-02-28 12:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her you are gay. Say somethign like, "I hope this will not affect our frienship negatively but I wanted to let you know I am gay. Some people have preconcieved notions about being homosexual and I just felt like I needed to tell you." Then listen to what she has to say. She might then admit she is gay or say " I am not gay but it doesn't bother me" or she might even be really negative........
You are never going to know until you talk.
2007-02-28 12:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her you are gay, just like that, only that way you will know if she is or she isn't
2007-02-28 12:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by looby 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As others have said, by coming out to her you'll either ratify your friendship or possibly develop it further.
I hope you get your desired result.
2007-02-28 13:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take her out to a mixed type place and tell her the truth of the matter.
2007-03-01 08:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by cadaholic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get drunk and just bring it up in conversation or play truth or dare and ask her if she would ever sleep with a women. good luck x
2007-03-01 09:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come out to her first and maybe she'll come out to you and let you know her sexual orientation.
2007-02-28 12:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
alcohol...just to test the water
2007-03-01 14:17:49 · answer #10 · answered by TheLizardKing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋