my cousin has birthed 8 babies, she handles them very difficult. she decides to throw them away because she has no man and no job.
i have explained her be endurance and tell the government to help her. she said no tell the government, she just wants to kill by herself or throw 8 babies away.
what should i do?
2007-02-28 04:35:27 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
WHAT THE HELL???!!!! why are you even asking what you should do???!!! tell the police!!!! and if they won't do something, go to child services and MAKE THEM do something!!! for crying out loud, what is WRONG with people these days???!!!
2007-02-28 04:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by Vol_Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure she is serious, but you should keep an eye on her. I think she is tired and overwhelmed and knowing the government, she is probably locked in some battle to get help from them. The government can be pretty bloody minded and they make you fill in form after form in order to try to wear you out.
Perhaps if you could find some friends and help her out or take the children off here hands for a day and later for half a day a week, it would give her time to recouperate.
But she has definetly asked for help and has not gotten it, now she is becoming a little desperate and feeling hopeless. See if you can arrange for you and her friends to do whatever they can to help her out.
If she knows there are people are out there for her and willing to help, that in itself will help her mood.
2007-02-28 04:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No man? After 8 babies, huh? - seems as if a good relationship was not what she wanted to build. She should never have even BEGUN to birth even ONE child.
You need to report her to Social Services - cousin or not! - before these children are harmed
And to M'luna....READ....REREAD - she said her cousin had birthed 8 babies...which means gave birth to 8 babies...that does not translate into 'at one time' !!
In addition...8 children could be much younger than 8 yrs old...depending on whether there were multiple births
2007-02-28 04:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get her on some form of birth control. Second get her some counseling. Third, find an adoption agency. This is one of the sadest yet preventable stories I've ever heard. 8 babies and no one in the family says anything? You folks have some serious problems.
2007-02-28 04:41:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its possible take them into your home, or tell her parents to take them in. Because like you said its not the kids fault. If she feels that she cant support them, then she should get family help. Im sure theres help for single mothers every where. (especially if she has 8 kids) Just tell her that just because she lost her man and job, it doesnt mean its the end of the world
If she had 8 kids, then she should be trying to do the most she can for them. She shouldnt give up so easy.
The most I can say is that You should be there for her in her ard times.
2007-02-28 04:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by gurl20073 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should have thought about that before having 8 babies... shes not a dog for goodness sake. Tell her to take them to social services, if she cant raise them with love and understanding and wants to just throw them out then give them so someone who will take care of them, She should never have been allowed to have babies in the first place. This is why i wish there were spay and nueter programs for women and men that should never ever have produced kids.
2007-02-28 04:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap her a couple times and tell her she's crazy and needs help. I s their any family nearby. As her cousin i advise you to be there for her as much as possible and if you see any marks on the kids at any time i hate saying it but tell the police the kids need your help and it seems you are the only one available and you may feel like she wont ever forgive you if the kids are taken away but she will because after she gets the help she needs she will probably never be able to forgive herself for having those thoughts ALSO MAKE SURE SHE GETS HER TUBES TIDE QUICK!
2007-02-28 07:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for your cousin, please. Is her mother around to help? I don't want to turn you into a snitch but if you are really concerned, maybe you should let social services know. I don't know where you live but I would hope there are agencies around to help her. Food shelves, section-8 housing, clothing closets, something. Are you able to help or do you have your own children? Can you take a few? Go over and babysit them all so she can have a day to herself maybe. I know you love your cousin and you don't want to see her do anything to herself. I don't know how old her oldest child is but they need to know that everything is going to be alright also or else it show in their behavior and their grades in school. I hope everything turns out all right.
2007-02-28 04:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by kaaytee79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she had 8 babies at once then that has to be documented so give me a link and call the law
911
2007-02-28 04:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, being it's your cousin and all, but call child services! That's not acceptable for her or the kids (kids especially), child services may just take them or find a way to help her. Don't let her be stupid, especially when kids are involved. Call before it's too late!
2007-02-28 04:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously contact the police and let them know that she has threatened to harm herself and her children. She really needs help and if she is refusing it, you need to get it for her any way you can! Any time someone makes a threat like that you need to take is seriously, or you will regret it if she follows through and you did nothing!
2007-02-28 04:47:59 · answer #11 · answered by First Time Momma 7/26/07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋