I have a prob. with cheating on my wife. Is there any help for me and any hope for aur marrage?

Answer 1

Yes quit f****** around. simple as that.

Answer 2

Are you ready for help. Take it this way. What makes you do that.Do you love her. Think if you get into a car accident, who is going to be at your bed side. Your wife is always going to be your wife and I think first find out if you really love her or not. If you do then please go counseling, Make a plan like business people make. The time you spend on other women start writing down the hours and days and how much you spend to get the disease so that days bring home some food with that money and make some barbecue, and the next day go to the movies and the next day work from Internet home business,something that you see here on yahoo. This way you get to know your wife better. There is no better person then your wife, take it this way. Save your family if you can please. It is so easy to break a family then to fix it. The good think is that you are trying to help yourself but don't know where to start, get some help and try counseling. Next time when you see a women and she ask you out, tell her that you need to call you wife. If you want change in your life. Hope this helps and Pray everyday. Payer with your family, A family that prays together stays together.

Answer 3

The minute you stepped through that door, you marriage was over. LOVE HONOR CHERISH all out the window. You ceased becoming a husband, and transformed yourself into the most contemptible villain imaginable. You became a liar, an oath breaker, and a traitor right up there with Judas. You have become absolute scum in the purest sense staining not only your name but the names of all husbands whose wives now have to question OUR sincerity because of you and the weak pathetic children like you.

The ONLY thing you can do is take the last of the tattered and frayed remnants of what you used to call your dignity, and to divorce her so she can find someone worthy of her and pray that this experience hasn't colored her vision of men so badly that she cannot find happiness. Cheating on your wife is not a "problem" it is a bullet in your temple and the only shame is that the analogy isn't literal.

Answer 4

u seek the excitement of it, the new of being with someone new and different, your immature, and don't realize the consequences at hand. u don't realize that if u do divorce and remarry one of your women that it will feel the same in a year or two. how about therapy? love is a decision not a feeling, your morals and beliefs are often based on your faith in god. at least your willing to admit there is a problem here, and there is hope if u can find out why u cheat. as u did make a commitment to this woman, have some self respect don't let this destroy your marriage.

Answer 5

What you want is the best of both worlds, but that is not yours for the taking. If your wife knows, I'm sure she's miserable about it. If she doesn't know, you are betraying and deceiving her and all the marriage is supposed to stand for. Unless she agrees (which of course I doubt), you have this choice. Either you can leave her and go fool around all you want, or you can decide that the marriage is important enough for you that you are willing to work on it.

We all love the newness of a relationship, but what most people don't get is that a relationship goes through stages, and they will not be the same. They are part of a growing progession of learning about YOURSELF through being with another. Time doesn't stand still and relationships don't either.

The honeymoon's over, but if you want to spend the rest of your life in the honeymoon phase - it's better not to be married at all.

Answer 6

Well the question is why do you cheat ? Its not a problem its an issue that leads up to cheating . What is it that you want from other woman that your wife cant give . Find that out first . Then try and find ways for your wife to fill in that emptiness . Communication plays a big part in marriage . You should be able to talk to her about what you want . If it is attention or even being sexy we as women will find ways to please our husbands if they only suggest or ask with out trashing us . Good Luck !!!

Answer 7

First off why would you get married if you are going to cheat marriage is a strong commitment second don't leave your wife hanging talk with her let her know from you whats going on don't let her find out someway else. Communication really is the key to a good relationship my husband and i have been married for almost 8 years

Answer 8

Some problem. Sounds like you cant keep you pants zipped. You are the problem, and until you grow up, and quit thinking that your all that, you can't commit to anyone or anything. There is no hope for your marriage, cause you don't take it seriously. Maybe you should do your wife a favor and take a long walk off a short dock.

Answer 9

With men cheating 60% of the time and women 40%, I don't think it's for the reasons people assume (just sex or for the thrills, etc).

In fact, I assume that, contrary to social opinion, monogamy isn't normal for all people. Unfortunately, society isn't accomodating to those who want to be both honest and are not naturally monogamous. Open relationships are seriously frowned upon.

Most guys or girls don't cheat to get sex. It happens, but not to most people, IMO. Most fall into a relationship unexpectedly and only have two options they see open to them. Leave the new relationship, which is brutally difficult, or cheat. Society has shown them only those two choices.

I am polyamorous. I am very open about my feelings and non-monogamous nature. I always make certain everyone involved is aware and OK before I enter into a relationship (their significant other, if they have one, and my wife). Though sex is a component of these romantic relationships, it's no different than anyone with a girlfriend or wife. They are long term and very loving relationships.

For those who are not monogamous, but not interested in long-term romantic relationships (i.e. sex is the more important aspect) and want to be open and honest with their partner, there is swinging. I"ve never experienced it, so cannot talk about it much.

I've always wondered why people find cheating (breaking the rules) more acceptable than open and honest non-monogamy.

If you believe you are someone that could be poly and want to discuss this with your wife, you won't be able to if things are going well between you and you need to NOT be cheating on her when you bring this up.

You also have to able to accept that she could and perhaps will date and sleep with other guys. If you have much jealousy in you, this won't work. If you cannot be UTTERLY honest and open, then this won't work.

There is a good chance your wife cannot accept this. It's something that you have to gauge yourself. It's also something you have to approach slowly. Hitting her with it all at once is not likely to be viable - she'll reject it out of hand. She has to get used to the idea first.

Many women and men are simply put, monogamous, and are not set out to be poly. I've included a link that is when you shouldn't consider being polyamorous - it's something you AND your wife would need to pass.

Answer 10

hhhmm.. first you need to tell then.. what has caused this?? why cheat?? where's the spark that you and your wife had?? there must be lots of factors as to why this happened... do you still love her?? is respect still there?? do you have time for each other?? think about it.... if love is there then all will be alright... Ü and pray.. put God in the center of this... He will be your guide.. and most important... communication is the key... why not talk it over if there's any problem... and have a solution for the problem.. Ü goodluck... hope this helps... Ü

Answer 11

I guess it all depends if your wife is the forgiving kind and also on whether you are in love with your wife enough to stop.
there is always counseling or does your wife even know?
most women do not put up with this behavior.
I think it is time you took a good long look at yourself and your life and decide if you want your wife or all of these women you are cheating with.
If you want to be single to date around with all of these other women then maybe you should get a divorce.
If you want your wife then you should stop messing around on her before she divorces you.


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