2007-02-28 04:21:23 · 13 answers · asked by Dolphins76 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know what u mean ...i really understand how this is so very annoying that u are ambitous and ur partner isnt... so if u cant change him and i think u tried and failed then yes u have to leave him....i'm sorry
2007-02-28 04:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ambition is a very importants trait to me any many other people, I'm sure. I'm not sure I could see myself being with someone who lacked this trait. It is important in a relationship that 2 people share common goals, and ambition is what makes us strive to reach those goals. With one person striving to reach those goals and the other having a lack of ambition, I can see where one person may wind up feeling like they are pulling all the weight in the relationship.
For example - There is a couple named Luke and Nancy who want to purchase a house (they are currently renting). Both hold steady, decent paying jobs. Luke is very ambitious while Nancy is not. Luke works hard and saves money while Nancy spends her money on clothes and other shopping sprees. Luke works hard to build his credit while Nancy has a hard time paying her credit card bills due to her excess shopping. Luke winds up resenting Nancy because they are having a hard time qualifying to buy a home due to Nancy's lack of ambition.
This is how I look at it...lack of ambition is important to me and can wind up causing larger problems and resentment down the road.
2007-02-28 12:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love this person?
When you say they lack ambition- what does that mean. Have you clarified it with that person. Everyone is not equally ambitious & ambition is expressed differently by different people.
If that person really lacks ambition, what is the reason, did they have a bad experience or something.
Do what you feel is right --after clarifying the facts.
2007-02-28 12:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have a good job. If they work, be happy. If their happy where they work be happier.
I have had several jobs since my second marriage, but I always worked. My wife has had the same job with the state for 25yrs.
When I went to work as an Investigator for a great atty. and friend, he'll have to blast my *** outta his office, if he wants me gone.
Having said that I have always provided for my family, and we purchased 2 more homes this past year. So you have to make the call, oh yeah and if he is home is he taking care of the house? When I was off and with a job, I cook clean, laundry ,shopping, the wife joked if she made more money i could stay at home.
But I 'm not a kept man ;} but she does love those perks I hope yours is doing the same thing if not get out the boot and kick him to the curb because your doing on your own anyway and he's an anchor dragging you down.
Hope this helps
2007-02-28 12:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it depends on how comitted you are to this person. Have you been dating a few months or a few years? Or are you engaged to this person or married to them?
If this is a situation where you've just been dating them for awhile and they don't seem motivated in their personal life, then yes, definately move on to some who is just as ambitious and motivated as you are.
If you're in a very comitted relationship, you may want to think long and hard about how you go about handling the situation. Are you in love with them? Do they love you? Is there something that's happend to temporarily make them have a lack of ambition or have they been this way since you met them, but you overlooked it till now?
Honestly, it comes down to if your path in life is matching up with their path. If it doesn't look that way, then dump them and move on...don't try to make someone else's lifestyle fit in with your own.
2007-02-28 12:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by emay02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Ambition to help make a better life for you and your family? if your on hard times? Then YES
2.Ambition to move up to a new job? but you and family are doing fine? Then NO
Ambition to get off their butt, and take you and the family out like to dinner, movies vacations? Then No talk to him about this issue and talk some more.
2007-02-28 12:28:37 · answer #6 · answered by choiceav 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "should". It's a totally personal decision. Is their lack of ambition a dealbreaker for you or not? Only you can decide that...
...perhaps helping them find some motivation and/or giving them encouragement may spark them to make a move.
2007-02-28 12:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have ambition and your partner does not, then it will probably never work. You will always feel like you are doing all the work and probably resent the fact that your partner is not holding up their end of the bargain.
2007-02-28 13:00:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not unless that lack of ambition means he wont get a job, won't clean up after themselves, etc.
2007-02-28 12:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you feel you have to take care of both of you forever?
And will this person's loss of self-esteem prove a drag?
My poor BF suffers through with me, for now, because of my undiagnosed but palpable social anxiety.
i feel so bad for him
But it's like it's his life to care for people.
And if I get through this, I get to give back.
If you're that strong a person, hey,t aht's really great.
And if you're like most of the world,
MOVE ON!
2007-02-28 12:26:29 · answer #10 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋