its really killing me to admit it but...i think i fancy one of my friends.
how do i get over it? i have to see them almost every day and this just cant go on since we're good friends and i dont wanna ruin it - its got to the point where i cant even give them proper eye contact
2007-02-28 03:58:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
im a man and my "friend" is a woman. i actually feel sorry for myself for having to deal with this :_((
thanx 4 any answers
2007-02-28 04:05:40 · update #1
Sounds like you just may need to come clean. Tell them how you feel and if it ends the friendship then tell them that's something that you were willing to risk because your conviction sounds pretty solid. Good luck friend, I hope everything works out.
2007-02-28 04:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The whole thing comes down to how good a friend this woman is. If you value her friendship and enjoy spending time with here then you and only you can judge whether it is worth sacrificing that friendship by telling her how you feel about her.
Sometimes we can confuse friendship and kindness for something else IE: sexual attraction.
There's no point in feeling sorry for yourself in having to deal with this because until you do you will for ever be in limbo.
I suggest you cease all contact with her, give it a couple of Weeks and then decide if you really are prepared to put your friendship on the line by confessing all to her.
If so then go for it you never know she may feel the same way but you also have to be prepared for rejection and potentially loosing a god friend.
All the best,
BEANS/UK.
2007-02-28 12:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by BEANS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I remember seeing one of my friends t-shirts which said 'If you don't ask, you don't get'.
So only way is to ask your friend out... on a 'date' but keep it friendly, if she reponses well to that then there may be something between you.
Its hard but you need to let it out and tell her your feelings otherwise you will go mad!
I fancied one of my friends many years ago but didn't know how to deal with it so didn't see him much. Fast forward a few more years we met up again at a jutal friends wedding. From there on, we both soon got to know each other better and became close friends.
Fast forward a few MORE years (yeah again(!) and we soon became flat mates which soon lead to a romantic relationship. Now I am married to the man! :-)
Sometimes waiting is worth it... it can be hard sometimes although it can be easier for some.
Take care and try not to mope around too much. It can send off wrong signals and also can be off putting to the other person.
Pluck up courage and ask her out for a friendly date...
Its all 50/50..... If you don't ask, you'll never know the answer.
2007-03-07 04:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by _ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a dilemma: either you choose survival or you choose the Heart. Your call.
Whatever be your choice, I say to you -- be brave. Actually you have nothing to lose: if you choose the first, you have the effects of admiration; if you do the other, you have at least the following of endearment. Both are good options to have.
While survival tends to power, the Heart unequivocally turns on the poles of the Harmonies.
You stand to lose by the former, and to ever gain by the latter, for the Harmonies make for an even more powerful friendship --whether she parts or not. The universe will hold all in good standing...
2007-03-08 03:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's Spring, Ben, and you've fallen in love. There are some things which are changeless over the globe and over the centuries. Ask to have a drink or a meal with her, something you want to talk about, tell her. I hope she feels the same, I hope it works out for you both. This is not a "really bad problem" this is what amkes the world go round.
2007-03-07 17:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got a crush on a friend that's a hard one but if you're really good Friends i would say she nos there is something up already if you really fancy here have a chat to see if she feels the same way take a risk if she is a really good friend she should be flattered,i fell for my friend and we've been married for 14 years xxxx
2007-02-28 12:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by Jojo 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ooh well, i am sure they will get the vibe sooner or later, you don't specify if its a same sex situation, coz if it is , they might not be prepared for you attention etc.....
however, on the few occasions a bird has come on to me i have been flattered , grateful even if i was going through a dry spell, considered it and then declined, so , go on, take a risk, you might get a fab relationship out of it
at worst a good mate would just say ' thanks but no thanks'
and if you get a negative response they were not a great friend to begin with. as soon as we are able to take life a little less seriously we seem to get on better, dpont question it , dont think, just do....!!!!
now go and make the magic happen......
good luck my friend
2007-02-28 12:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant help the way you feel,so you gonna have to say something. Hopefully you`ll be able to laugh it off if she not interested & you dont put any pressure on her to go out with you. She`ll probably be secretly flattered!
2007-02-28 12:25:28 · answer #8 · answered by lovelylady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to put a bit of distance between you and your friend...you could always try talking about it with her, she may feel the same and if not you could just have a good laugh about it all. You know this person well and thats why its easy to fancy them...good luck!
2007-02-28 12:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by kazza 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh joys, the great conundrum. Leave it chuck, nothing worse than turning a great friendship into an uncomfortable acquaintance.
2007-03-05 16:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by RedSnook 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋