A few months ago, one of my closest friends turned agaisnst me, she swore at me, blanked me, and back chatted. Normally, this wouldn't have bothered me, I would just get on with life and wait for things to settle down. But it did bother me, a lot. It was at the back of my mind nearly all the time, I went completly unproportional and often cried myself to sleep. I would cry in lessons at school. I had no idea what was happening to me. Eventually, after a few weeks, my friend made up with me.
I was fine then, for a couple of days, when I suddenly, out of the blue, became completly governed by the fact that I didn't have a boyfriend, something that had never bothered me before.
I eventually got over that, but another thing came along and that one thing controls me for ages.
Even today, I was sworn at in hockey becuase I accidently hurt a girl. I came home in tears and now feel awfull because of it.
Please tell me what is going on and how to stop this happening.
2007-02-28 03:56:51 · 6 answers · asked by tiger 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Politics
Im 13 by the way...
2007-03-02 23:17:11 · update #1
you need help!
2007-02-28 04:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by PROUD TO BE A LIBERAL TEEN! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as though your need to be accepted. This is soo normal, especially at your age. It's a very good sign your human. You sound as though your sensitive to others emotions, and what they think of you. Tiger, your an "individual" and you can't please everyone and people will forever disagree with you and on occasions say you did wrong purpossbly though you did'nt. Don't take to heart those things of others you can't change, and the idea, everyone will like me, is not going to happen, no matter what you do. Be your own person, and be willing to forgive those that don't see eye to eye with you. Your at an age where there is so many changes with your body's releasing chemicals into your system and being viewed by others and the ability of yourself to 'beat yourself up' because what you think others see. It's important to see yourself as the nice, compassionate person you have presented youself here on this web site. Tears are ok and feeling bad is ok, but realize you are an individual with the same fears and disappointments as "who am I?" as those that may speak out against you. Just because this one or that one dosen't agreee with you dosn't mean you need a personality change. When you love you, others will to. GOD BLESS you and your question, I would jump at the chance to be your friend.
2007-02-28 12:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tiger,
It would be helpful to know how old you are, but I am assuming you are in your early teens. (?) Some times girls can be cruel, even best friends. You have a lot going on right now. Your hormones are insane, the stress of school, and trying to fit in, just trying to figure out what to ware can be stressful, you don't want to be made fun of, or abused by people.
Some times though you need to protect yourself emotionally. You can't let people go off on you because they have problems they can't deal with. A good measuring stick is this; if someone says, or does something that hurts you, say to them "What you just did/said hurt me, did you mean to hurt me, or am I taking it the wrong way?" Make them be responable for their own behavior. If they did mean to hurt you then you need to re-evaluate that relationship.
No one desreves to be a whipping boy/girl. Talk to your mom, or an aunt, or your dad. Sometimes they can help you more than you realize. Don't isolate yourself, and think you have to handle growing up all alone. No one does, and remember it's better to have no friends than "friends" that abuse you.
That isn't love, and it is a very bad pattern for a young girl to get into. You are worth more than that. I am sure you are loved by many people. Focus on them, and the love they have for you and these other problems become what they truly are. Nothing to worry about. And don't worry about not having a boy friend. You have the rest of your life to do that. Don't get sucked in by the pressure to do what everyone else does. Be yourself. Like who you are. Look at all of the talents you have! Find things to do that you enjoy. Take up a hobby, my 19 year old daughter loves to scrapbook, and has since she was about 12. Learn to knit, or crochet, read a good book, take up a sport like rock climbing. The world is out there waiting for you to explore it! Don't let what other people think of you make you crazy. Get up, get out, and get going!!!
Take care of you!
2007-02-28 13:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by harleygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say hormones, but I myself hate hearing that word. It's normal though to. I get upset about a lot of things that a year ago wouldn't have bothered me. I think it is due to a feeling of insecurity and sense of loss teenagers experience when shifting from childhood to adulthood.
You want to do everything right and want your life to go how you planned it, but because you're older, you can't do that because now you have more complex, adult issues facing you.
And *cringes* it probably is due somewhat to hormones. I think it will stop when you find your place in the world and are confident of your abilities. Good luck!
2007-02-28 12:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by Ice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a large part of it could just be your hormones acting up.. but it also sounds like you have lived a sheltered life and that you have low self esteem.. try doing things to make you feel better about yourself.. like picking up a hobby or some moderate exercise.. and slowly try to ween yourself off of the cry response.. as it is many times a learned trait.
2007-02-28 12:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by pip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop yourself from growing up.
2007-02-28 12:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋