do you ever find it hard to fit in but trying to be youself at the same time?

Question

please give examples.
its for my cause and effect paper
for english class

Answer 1

Often, though normally when I was younger.

Not to brag, but I got accepted into my Gifted Program in 3rd grade. But aside from my IQ score, I often felt left out, as I didn't always understand stuff in school. You couldn't tell the teachers, however, without getting a look like, "huh?" and then a smug look that said, "well, guess you AREN'T better than my kid".....though I never felt that I WAS any better than anyone else. Adults impose their thoughts often on how kids are treated....more often than they realize.

I also had two parents who gave a GREAT example of what to look for in a relationship, as well as both sets of grandparents and the majority of my aunts and uncles, all who found the one for them BEFORE they got married. I knew also that you can have disagreements, but if you love each other, they shouldn't come between that love. This gave me a very grown-up attitude toward relationships, love, and marriage. Consequently, I dated MUCH later than the majority of my friends, didn't understand their way of having relationships (always using "love" for like and lust), and have often been told by my friends that I'm lucky to have found someone who compliments me so much. Not that they don't love their boyfriends/spouses, but I realize that I AM very lucky to have found my husband, as he IS the right one for me. I don't consider it luck, however, so much as....paying attention to what I needed in a relationship and what I could bring to one, and finding the person who could give what I needed and needed what I could give.

More recently, I find it hard to fit in and be myself at the same time, as I'm a Stay at Home Mom, but many working women I've run into seem to think we don't have thoughts outside of housework and babies. And my interests are not usually what these women care about (it's not my joy to talk about such idiotic - IMO - things as Desperate Housewives), which means that fitting in often involves me sitting there like a bump on a log while they chat mindlessly about nothing. They then think I'm "stuck up" because I find more interest in talking with my husband, mother, child, and those people that EVERYONE thinks are odd, but are really very interesting. Go figure. *shrug*

Answer 2

Sounds like typical Junior High and High School, nonsense.
Everyone's trying to impress and be friend all the popular kids.

I'll be honest when I was in school, sometimes fitting in, I wouldn't be myself, you gotta act cool. And By Sophmore year, I dropped the act and became myself, and realized-no one liked the real me-Aint that weird?!? So yeah, I was better off anywayz, I think it's a phase we all go thorugh, just to feel accepted in some way. Teenage years is always tough too.

Answer 3

I hope you get the real answers you need. Anyway, I have never tried to fit in because I like me.

My mother put me down a lot when I was a child and told me I was different. Somehow, God worked it out for my good. You see, instead of my feeling 'less than', I felt 'better than' and still do, without being swell-headed.

I don't feel being different makes one an oddity - just different. And to me, that's good!

Answer 4

I used to in high school,but it was too difficult, I tried to smoke,thought it was cool, everyone was doing it.
I almost killed myself with the smoke, I was really going against myself and my beliefs to go with the actions of others and the outcome or effects were going to be life threatening or negative for me.
Wish I could remember what I did for my cause and effect..
If I don't study I don't learn, or remember....lol
Good Luck...

Answer 5

It is hard for some people to be themselves, and just be yourself.