How to make peace with my past? We broke up, i pursued military training and now have full on career i was seeking. she moved on to my then roomate. it all came out like a soap opera the day before me going off to defend the country, yada yada. anyways, they're still together, i have great people and work in my life. but it still bothers me. i guess time heals all wounds and etc, and moving on is the natural progress, and i wanna be happy for them, but deep down i still feel betrayed. any ideas how to make peace with it?
2007-02-28 03:52:17 · 7 answers · asked by steveo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The only advice I can give it to accept what you cannot control and work with what you can.....you cannot change or control what they have and thinking or obsessing about it 'why is she with him', 'what does he have that I don't', etc. will slowly destroy you. Concentrate on your life and your wants and needs and stop worrying about theirs. As soon as you let go of that worry/hate/resentment you will feel 10 pound lighter. Good luck : )
2007-02-28 03:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could give you an answer. I went through the same situation except I was married and my then husband was with my so called best friend. I have been divorced for almost a year and he is still with her. The only problem is he lost interest in his own daughter. He hasn't seen her or contacted her since August. I have moved on but still have bad dreams about the whole situation. I guess it will always bother me because we have a child together. So if you find an answer please let me know.
2007-02-28 05:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you feel betrayed. Anyone in your position would.
But let's look at the possitive side of things.
You didn't marry her.
You are not tied to her with kids.
You have a career you love.
You are doing great without her.
Let them go. There is someone out there that is just right for you. Live your life and when the time is right - she will be there and you will be glad you are with her.
2007-02-28 04:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by Collette L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to feel betrayed. Nevertheless, try to focus on your own life as much as you can. You will find happiness , trust me. And when it does, the forgiveness for the betrayal will come automatically. Dont force yourself to heal. Time will heal it without your realising. Trust in time & god. Remember, your ex & her boyfriend have to live with what they've done too. Just focus on your life. Whatever happened was for everyones good & what will happen will be for good too. ust be patient & carry on.
2007-02-28 04:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to have closure to the relationship an di think the only way you are going to do this is to let them both know how it hurt you and how you feel now. You never know how letting them know how you feel will turn out untill you do it, but you will feel better after letting them know.
2007-02-28 04:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by curious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write them both a letter and wait a week if you mail it after a week you still have the same intentions then you did the right thing.
2007-02-28 03:56:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to confront the past and the people who were in your past.
2007-02-28 03:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋