Mt ex husband is back after 4 years of divorce, most of that time we were sleeping together, does he have the?

Question

right to insist I name every one I slept with while divorced? I never question him because early on I knew I had no right cause we were divorced..lol help

He initiated divorce and I dint sleep but with three people but he was so intent on my saying the words I told him all now im pissed cause i said from up front I did not want to go back but he would not let it go no matter what

He says his reason is he doesnt want to be looking in the eyes of some of his "friends" that claim they slept with me

I'm beginning to think it is some form of control he has to have

Answer 1

No. No matter what kind of a relationship your in, he doesnt have the right to know every person you slept with, unless you have a disease. He has a right to know about any STD's, but other than that, NO.

He's not your dad or your boss, and even they dont have a right. If your ex has a problem with this, then he has insecurity problems and you might want to re-think getting back with him.

Answer 2

I believe this could be either Yes or No. 1). You both need to allow time to reacquaint with one another, so it is important to deal with the past gently. Both of you going back need to first work on yourselves and strengthen this "revised" relationship. 2). Both agree that, when the time comes, you will sit down and talk about the past four years, in a healthy way...Guess what, if not, you will both use it against each other when you argue or disagree. So, it is imperative that you lay down some ground rules that you both will not use the past 4 years as ammo.

So, both agree to set aside the last 4 years for a time, work on the present, and as you strengthen, then if some questions arise, you should be able to deal more adequately with those issues.

Answer 3

What is wrong with you? You divorce a guy, keep sleeping with him and sleep with other people too? and how long would this list be?

If he's asking, that means it bugs him. He may not have the right, but until you answer, he won't let go.

Answer 4

No. he does not have the right! And if he insist, show him the door and tell him not to let it hit him in the A** on the way out!

Answer 5

Have you considered that this is now just a physical relationship? And yes, anyone "sleeping" with anyone has the right to know if they are at risk by bieng with you.

Answer 6

Only if you give him the right. You are a grown up you don't have to say anything you don't want to!!!! I'd stick to this "everything that has happened has made us the people we are today which is for the best" and leave it at that!!!

Answer 7

You marry this person. mistake
You divorce this person. mistake
You still have sex with the person for 4-years. mistake
You want to get back together with the person. mistake
Now you all want to know what you all been up to. mistake

You both have bigger problems then that.

Answer 8

He doesn't have the right. If he really wants to work things out it starts today, not the last four years.

Answer 9

Of course not, in theory. But from a practical standpoint, knowing your partner's sexual history is kinda important. If he wants to know so he can pount about it, then don't tell him. If he wants to know for practical purposes, then maybe consider it.

Answer 10

why would it matter? if you are back together and happy then it started they day you got back together. anything from the past should not be a factor unless you are talking about criminal activity. sexual partners names should never be discussed.