My husband & I are moving into a new house in 2 weeks. We both have been very stressed lately. Last night when we were laying in bed we were discussing about my family going to the beach this summer & his parents going the end of next month. Then I said it would be nice to go somewhere & my husband got upset saying that we couldn't & that I seem unappreciative about the house. It's not that & I didn't mean it like the way he took it. He took it wrong! I am appreciative or else I wouldn't be telling everyone & I wouldn't be packing so soon. I don't understand why he took my comment as being unappreciative about the house. He said it seems like I'm trying to run before I can crawl.
2007-02-28 03:03:22 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't have to have alot of fun stuff going on in my life. I just said because I felt like it would be good to get away since we've both been stressed. We make good money so we can go -he is just "funny" sometimes when it comes to money. He acts like we are so broke even though we're not.
2007-02-28 03:14:54 · update #1
That poor guy is VERY stressed out. Moving in itself is stressful, and if anything else is going on, it's even worse. I would say let it go, unless he brings it up. If he does, remain calm and just simply state he took it the wrong way, that you are excited about moving, and very much appreciate all the things he does for you and the family. Men generally just want to feel appreciated and feel like they are providing. He may have felt that he wasn't providing enough and when you mentioned going somewhere, it just made him feel worse, even though YOU didn't mean to do that. It's just him, his mood, and his stress level. Try not to make too big of a deal out it, and just let it go.
2007-02-28 03:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the cost of the new home may be more than he thought, and he may think there will be no money to go to the beach. get a job if u don't have one, do babysitting, earn some extra cash so there will be money to take a trip. he is just stressed and i would not say anything else about the trip u want to go on. he took it all wrong, but he may be having some money problems right now, wants to get settled in the new house before he thinks ahead that far.
2007-02-28 11:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just the stress of the new house. Moving is tough and puts a lot of pressure on people. You were not wrong for saying that it would be nice to go somewhere.
He's just dealing with the stress of the new house differently than you are.
2007-02-28 11:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds to be the one in the marriage who worries over financial situations, where as you do not. He is probably under a lot of stress, and you bringing up going somewhere came across to him as if you wanted "MORE"< the house was not enough, meaning he has to spend more. Spending money worries him, that is all it is. He is probably more comfortable with concentrating on one project at a time. For now, just enjoy the house. You two will be spending enough time together with packing, unpacking, decorating, etc etc. Best of luck to you!.
2007-02-28 11:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you probably shouldn't have said what you said, but you know that now. ;-) Guys tend to be problem solvers, what you did is presented him with a problem--you want to go somewhere. The only thing is, he doesn't have a solution right now, because you're just bought this new home, and your finances are probably pretty stretched. So, since you presented him with a problem that right now he can't solve, he got frustrated, and accused you of not being appreciative of what he does for you.
Make sure you tell him every single day, at least once, how much you appreciate all he does for you and for your family.
2007-02-28 11:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. A Fool And His Money Are Soon Parted. Your husband is wise. He also sounds like a good provider. He just took it wrong, as you thought, because his ears heard that he wasn't making/spending enough money to make you happy!! Treat him carefully because he's a Jewel. You will not be dying poor if you stick with this man. Let him know that every time you get the chance. @8-)
2007-02-28 11:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a new house comes many stresses, financial, and all the other stresses that come along with a new home. Explain your meaning and leave it at that with him, not worth the argument. Chances are he already knows he took what you said wrong. Don't let something trivial ruin this monumental move!
2007-02-28 11:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a person that has to have lots of stuff happening in her life or you don't think you are living. Your husband is stressed about the house and the added expenses it will bring. Chill out girl and enjoy your new home and your husband.
2007-02-28 11:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To him it might seem like you are asking for too much. Just be happy and content with the new house and dont ask for anything else. Saying it would be nice to go somewhere seems like you arent happy with what you have. Its like you just got what you wanted(new house) and you havent even moved in yet and are already asking for something else!!! Dont be so greedy.
2007-02-28 13:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I thnk you are probably just stressed out and having a hard time making everything come together on a new house is hard, just be patient and it'll be fine once you are in your new house and on your feet again...
2007-02-28 11:09:04 · answer #10 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋