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Everything we do is a learning experience. What we have done in the past has determined what type of lessons we have learned and, ultimately, who we have become.

2007-02-28 03:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by lisateric 5 · 0 0

Our past experiences reflect on who we are today. It is what we base our judgements on, how we react to, and identify with, situations that we encounter today and in the future. For example, if you are raised in an abusive home you tend to gravitate to the same or go polar opposites in your adult life and relationships. Some become the abuser, the victim of an abuser or insecure to the point that you over compensate and be whatever others want in order to not create any conflict. In raising children you could lack control because you see any discipline as a form of abuse. This is my opinion and generalization based on my experiences but a majority of my findings, we are creatures of habit. If someone does not see a connection then they are more than likely choosing not to in a subconscious or conscious way in order to cope. Depends on the degree of the situation in the past. I would suggest you try to encourage counselling but if they don't even recognize it or refuse to acknowledge it, there is no problem to address with a counsellor according to them. Being a good personal support is the best you can do.

2007-02-28 12:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by jaided_icemaiden 2 · 0 0

Of course we are a product of our life experiences. However, I also think it's healthy to leave the past in the past. we are who we are today due to the things we've been through but those past things do not have to identify us. If your friend is having trouble dealing with something and you think something from her past is having a big impact on her try to get her to talk about how the two things may be related. She will have to work on getting rid of those past memories from being in the forefront of her mind. She should probably get some counseling, It would really help her put things in perspective.

2007-02-28 11:09:54 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0 0

The past shapes us but it is not a reason to live in the past. Sometimes something from our past .....can remain hidden even from ourselves ......this can be a hinrance in moving through life. If this is the case the door needs to be unlocked...let it out and deal with it appropriately. This is where those trained as in councellors or pychotherapists do their job....we hope.

2007-03-01 06:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0 0

Um, depends on what it is. If it was a crime forgedaboutit. But something small and stupid, NO, usually you don't carry the past on your shoulders to the current situation. There is no connection.

2007-02-28 11:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by Joe Capo 5 · 0 0

Its called common sense so why would you need to identify the connection?

2007-02-28 11:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by 2 good 2 miss 6 · 0 0

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