(Before I Start Asking This Question I Have Nothing Against Gay People)
If This Question Offends Then I Apologise
I have a fiend who I have known for twelve years. He has quite a few Gay friends but insists that he is straight.
He is a very good friend to the point that If I was stranded somewhere then I know that I could rely on him to give me a lift home.
Why I ask this question is because he goes to gay sauna and bars.
He tells me that these places have no violence and he feels safe.
Does anyone out there know of anyone who goes to gay bars but is straight?
Thanks for your answers
Any answers appreciated
2007-02-28 02:47:34 · 19 answers · asked by Walter 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think that as long as he is your friend, and you trust him as you say you do, you just keep accepting as he is, and let him know that you accept him. But I am sure he already knows that.
You say you would trust him in a crisis situation--can he say the same of you? If so, then whatever either of you go through will work out...if you know that you can always count on each other's love and friendship.
If you guys are true friends, then it is each other and the friendship that matters. All the other stuff is just stuff.
2007-02-28 03:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by SAMUEL ELI 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question has come up before, and the answer is that straight guys and gals do go to gay bars for the atmosphere, the company and the good food. Gay guys in gay bars tend not to be trying to be overacting macho studs, but are more relaxed just being who they are. Gay bars tend to be a lot more civilized than regular corner bars.
2007-02-28 03:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's your friend, then it shouldn't matter. Nothing about your friendship should change. I'm straight and I've hung out a gay bars before. The drinks are cheaper, the music is better, the conversation is usually more intelligent, and I don't have to put up with idiots constantly hitting on me.
2007-02-28 02:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's quite possible he is straight. If he enjoys the atmosphere of his local gay bars and doesn't mind guys flirting with him sometimes then there's no reason why he wouldn't go. He could also be gay or bi or experimental.
I doubt he'd be offended if you just asked him. Let him know it wouldn't bother you. Then if he says he's straight take his word for it, there's no point in going on about it.
2007-02-28 03:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by helehelo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not know of anyone who does that, but you have one of two choices from what I can see. Either you accept his answer as the truth and that is that and move forward with your life. Or you realize that he is lying to you as he may be afraid to come out of the closet to you and admit that he is gay, which if this is the case then you also need to move on with your life. My guess is that it is the second one and to afraid to say anything because he is afraid of what you may say or think about him. What gives me this thought is that if he is that good a friend to you, then what do you care what his sexual orientation is and why would you come online to post this to find out anyone else's opinion? And I am not trying to insult you, but you appear to be that type of person who is a busy body, always wanting to mess around in everyone else's life (even though you may not see it), hence he is trying to avoid having to answer to you.
In the end, does it affect you at all? No. Does he need to justify anything to you? No. Is he still a good person? Yes. So get on with your life and be more concerned with making your life better or helping the environment or helping a friend, etc.
And don't listen to Jason A.......he is just one of the Christian Nazis trying to insult gay people and convert them to his religion. If God created everything then he created homosexual people as well, a good person is a good person, unlike Christian Nazis who think that they are only right.
2007-02-28 02:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by cor001000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay sauna...bloody hell...He's probably gay darling but doesn't feel comfortable revealing it yet. Especially ro his closest friend. Gay sauna's are a place for men to strip and have sex or induldge in sex acts freely within that space. I'm not say he does it but he's going there obviously to start feeling the ground he is about to tread on.
2007-02-28 02:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, I know alot of straight girls who like to hang out in groups at gay bars. Most of them say the like it, because they can have a good time, and don't have to worry about fending off the men. The only one who is going to be able to give give you a certain answer is your friend. If he is gay, he will tell you in his own time, when his comfort level is okay. If he is a good friend, I wouldn't worry about whether he is gay or not. Obviously he has been good to you, and you care about him.
2007-02-28 02:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO straight guy goes to gay saunas/bars. Absolutely not. He's in the closet. Big time. Think abou tit, If he wanted to feel 'safe' he can go a nice spa, Friendly's or TGI Friday's (or similar).
2007-02-28 08:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by napqueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have had straight friends go to gay bars with me. But not on a regular basis. And ONLY gay men go to gay saunas. There is only one reason to go there. Sex with other men. He's gay. But lay off of him. Maybe your badgering him is scaring him. Let him come out in his own time.
2007-02-28 04:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jack R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is prolly a gay hag, but maybe he is gay and he is just not ready to admit it. So, he tried to convince himself and you that he is not gay, while deep inside, he wanted to be able to except the fact that he is gay, but he just can't. nevertheless, either he is gay or not, you have to be the best friend as you can and support him for who he is.
2007-02-28 02:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by B-D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋