Okay, so it might not be during sex particually, but she finds pain arousing. I know this is not a super uncommon fetish, but it worries me. Should I be worried by it? She has expressed gulit over having the fetish, but what should I do? Is it a sign of a larger problem? And if it's not really an issue after all, how can I please her in that way with out doing anything expressly violent?
2007-02-28 02:44:38 · 10 answers · asked by Wolf Jackson 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the accepted way to give pain is by spanking. Just try not to keep the people in the next hotel room awake with it.
If she enjoys it and you don't mind helping her out then it's nothing to worry about.
2007-02-28 02:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you didn't really give enough information.
What kind of pain does she like to get aroused?
Does she like pain during sexual acts?
Why is she guilty?
I personally loved to have my hair pulled, a little hot wax dripped on me, and whipped with a hand or whip, and a little play biting is nice too...
That gets me so aroused but usually its only when I'm actually in a sexual act not before.
That is completely normal...
now if she needs it to get aroused there maybe an underlying issue like she is guilty of something and feels that is a way for her to be punished and feels dirty about it when she gets aroused...
but like I said if its the normal stuff don't worry...if shes wanting things that you know will really really hurt her before there maybe an issue.
2007-02-28 02:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by colie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to start off with there are Lot of people out there that get off on pain . Its a good thing for some, threes nothing Wong with it . and if your lady likes it go with it just know when to stop and not leave her hurting from it . go to the D's books ~Dom and Mistress~ they will help you understand More about this kind of life .Let me ask this .. have you ever had a woman take her nails and dig them into your back while having sex , and how did that make you feel at that point in time ? if it turned you on even more then you know how your lady feels and why she likes it so much . As for me I love it when my man gets hold of my neck and leaves his mark on me , its a very big turn on for me . but some just don't like that kind of pain . but look into the Dom's and Domes . best of luck to you
2007-03-06 17:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by patti_buffkin2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as it is done consual and parties are given a chance to exchange feedback, there is nothing wrong with it.
When one of the parties feels forced, or it starts interfering with "normal" life steps need to be taken to correct this.
Otherwise let her know it is okay to enjoy it!
Experiment and see what works for the both of you. Watch some movies, and whenever you see something that make you think it'll hurt see if you can twist it to not too or non-damaging (depending on what is okay with you) and try it. Ask her for suggestions, and don't limit yourself to genre movies, mainstream offers lots of suggestions too.
2007-03-01 07:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by Don't look too close! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she isn't getting off you you beating the crap out of her, then no worries. If so, she should probably seek help from a therapist. Most girls I have been with love their *** spanked and hair pulled.
2007-03-02 21:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jeremy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, no it is nothing to be worried about and here are some ideas:
handcuffs(somewhat violent, or at least they insinuate it)
smack her booty somewhat hard
and just mabye like fast hard sex
alot of squeezing
2007-02-28 02:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with it.
I love hairpulling, getting spanked, having my back scratched, and biting. Oh and squeezing.
2007-02-28 03:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine does, so I just pull her hair during.... well bigger problem...who knows. Just don't hurt her(too much)!!!
2007-02-28 03:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just start biting her during sex
2007-03-08 01:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hay spankings are good not to hard/little dirty talk, role play
2007-02-28 03:00:40 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋