We have been together for three years and he can be really nasty ihe said don't xxxxing talk to me i'm concentrating so i said don't speak to me like that and he said what did you say and i said i'm not saying it again you told me not to talk to you and he went mental. he can be really nasty and other times he's fine we have to do everthing his way or not at all and hes always in a bad mood moaning all the time
2007-02-28 02:30:04 · 16 answers · asked by anon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You bet, move on.
2007-02-28 02:33:24 · answer #1 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It seems you know the answer to your question, you are just waiting for total strangers to tell you to go ahead. You know you need to do it.
Respect is not there. You can't get it now, you can't work backwards like that. You knew he was like that and ignored it because you thought you'd change it or he would grow out of it.
Rule #1 is the advice I've given to my three daughters: Don't marry a fixer-upper. Get one that's good to go. That goes for men or women.
To men I say don't rescue a damsel in distress. All you end up with is a distressed damsel.
You may have "settled" because you thought he was good enough for you. Work on your self-worth because somehow you think you are dumb, ugly or fat. Finish your education to feel better about yourself, improve your appearance with excellent hygiene and good fashion sense, or start on getting a terrific body. When you feel good about yourself you will start to hold people around you accountable.
It does no good to choose to stay in your situation and then complain about what YOU have chosen.
If there are children in the picture, how could you sentence them to a life of that?
But most importantly, don't make noises about what you are going to do if you don't have a detailed plan of HOW you are going to do it, when, where you will go. He will not respond to empty threats, only when he knows he will lose you FOR SURE.
If you are weak, act AS IF you had a backbone and the courage will come to you.
2007-02-28 10:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by Orquidea 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ah love. What about those vows you took? "To love, honour and obey; in sickness and health; till death do you part". I guess marriage means nothing to you after all, eh? All those lies you spouted while wearing that lovely dress and having roped in all the annoying relatives and friends to attend, what a shame it was all for such a false fiasco and so expensive too...
Okay, enough nastiness. Here's the advice:
If this is a common occurrence, leave the ********! Its that simple.
...But don't ever marry again. It is something only idiots do! You're not an idiot are you?
2007-02-28 10:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by Oliver T 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
That sounds like the problem is on both ends. Only you can decide whether you should leave him or not. We don't know the whole story! If you want to try why don't you both go to a marriage councilor? If you don't do that, or are not even able to sit down and talk to each other, then you need to decide what you are willing to put up with.
2007-02-28 10:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by tmac 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Only you know the answer but I wouldn't want my sister or mother to be treated like that don't you think that you deserve better
2007-02-28 10:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by delmonticoman 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's called verbal abuse. Don't stay in a relationship unless there is respect and love.
2007-02-28 10:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by J F 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes Leave Him He wont get any better. He is just going to get worse
2007-02-28 10:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Lin 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm going to give you a simple answer.If you want to be happy...leave.If you like being disrespected....stay.
2007-02-28 11:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by DA_ONE_AND_ONLY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should leave. This sounds like it can get abusive physically also, if it hasn't already.
2007-02-28 10:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by Ginger 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is controlling and verbally abusive. Yes, leave him.
2007-02-28 10:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Stick a fork in this guy. He needs to grow up. You can do better.
2007-02-28 10:33:26 · answer #11 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋