Which I bought I didnt want the situation to get petty,so I said yes to his first request.Now he is asking my daughter to ask me for other Items.What should I do? I have asked him to not use our daughter as a go between,but he ignores my wishes!
2007-02-28 02:29:27 · 12 answers · asked by RAINBOW 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to your daughter - ask her to say "Ask Mommy" whenever your ex tries to use her to get to you. Tell him he is not to go through her - he has to communicate with you. Period. Don't ask - tell.
Did he take anything from the home before or during the divorce that you would want? If he asks for anything else, tell him you would be happy to either trade or he can purchase the item(s) from you for fair market value. It's not petty - but it seems as though he is.
2007-02-28 02:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you asked him to not use your daughter as a go between, stick to it. Let him know that you absolutely will not honor any requests that he makes through your daughter. If he has something to ask you for, or talk to you about, he does it directly with you. Next, he already had his chance to ask you for what he wanted. You said yes - but that is it. Unless these are items that are stated in a divorce agreement that go to him. But if these are extra items that you bought - tell him no. He's not your husband anymore. You don't owe him anything else.
2007-02-28 10:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I had this problem my ex used to ask for things through my daughter, he couldnt ask me himself. I dont know how old your daughter is but it is so wrong of them to do this.My daughter was older, and most of the time "forgot" to ask me she got rather fed up with her dad for doing this. So i just gave him every item that i had that belonged to him, i have nothing left now in the house belonging to him. Any any other requests for things i have just ignored. If they cant face you and ask you themselves then no they dont get it.Good Luck
2007-02-28 11:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know he is your X however, are you using the said things? if yes tell him yourself that they are in use in your home. If no - why not give them to him - try to keep a good relationship for your daughters sake.
2007-02-28 16:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is only entitled to what it says he is in the divorce decree. Heshould get his personal items such as clothes, books and photographs. Having said that I have been waiting 5 years to get books and photographs of myself. Give him what is his once and for all and get rid of him.
2007-02-28 16:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your daughter that your ex has no right to ask her to ask you for things he wants. Tell her that it's between the two of you that when she goes to visit him that it's about him and her not what he wants. Tell her that you love her and know it's hard but tell her to tell him that she isn't the messanger. She needs to know that if daddy asks her to ask you something that she should tell him to call you or ask when he drops you off. I hope this helps.
2007-02-28 10:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by Toni V 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Were you two married? If so everything is joint property. You two should sit down make a list of all of the items in the home and divide them fairly between you two.
P.S. Stop using your child as a messenger.
2007-02-28 10:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
oh my....he is a jerk for going through your daughter; my ex did that to for everything, until the girls got older and then they would just say, "that's between you and Mom, not our issue"
2007-02-28 10:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
very simple...just say no. tell your daughter to tell him no. if he wants those things then they will need to be in the divorce decree. especially if you paid for it.
2007-02-28 11:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your ex...then he has no right to anything that wasn't covered in the divorce decree.
Learn to say NO.
2007-02-28 10:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋