the couple is 18 yrs old and they both love each other. explain your answer please.
2007-02-28 02:00:43 · 7 answers · asked by nini v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They have two choices... They can hurry the wedding, so that the mother has to deal with both a first pregnancy and a stressful wedding at the same time.
Or they can wait until after the baby is born, and the mother has time to recuperate a bit and enjoy her wedding day a bit more. The baby can be part of the ceremony then, she'll have a few more options for what to wear, and they'll have a better idea of budget once the major expense of birthing is out of the way.
Reason 1 -- lessen the stress
Reason 2 -- keep things within the budget
Reason 3 -- personal happiness (wedding dress choices, personal preference all around)
In the end, it's their wedding, and they can decide when they feel it's best to tie the knot.
2007-02-28 02:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is okay. It has happened many times in this country and still goes on today. Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt had a kid, but aren't married, will it be okay for them to marry? Of course!
It's almost like asking if a couple get married and have kids, is it okay for them to Divorce? This too happens all the time.
So, I don't understand the difficulty of realizing the answer here.
Since a couple is engaged, and since they love each other, and they have had a child,.......of course it's okay to get married. If they still love each other, then by all means get married.
This is no different if a Mother with children gets remarried, and now has a Step-Dad for her children as well as a new husbancd, this happens all the time also.
This new child, having a baby, may have come before the marriage, but, it sure doesn't change things if the goal is to be married and have a family. And besides,.....it will be good for the child in the long run.
Of course with them being so young, it wouldn't hurt for them to get parenting and marital classes becuase it's going to be a challenge and both have said hello to responsibility and said good-bye to a lot of freedoms that comes with parenthood and marriage. So, if they want to succeed, all the support they can gather and apply to their situation will help them in the long run.
Many children have been born out of wed-lock only for the parents to marry later. This is so common, it is about as common as those whom get married first then have children.
However; since you asked "is it right"? ....are you asking from a religious, social, politically correct, or other position? The answers can vary here, but, then again......they can't get rid of the Baby per se', and they can't just deny their love and desire to marry. I say, recognize what is common in this country and go get married WHEN YOU/THEY'RE ready!
I can't emphasize enough to get paranting classes and marital counseling classes. It's gonna be a challenge early on, but, will smooth out, and hopefully both have supportive families.
2007-02-28 10:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're asking if it's ok for a couple that had a baby to get married?
Children change everything. You can love each other so much, but once a baby enters into the equation...everything changes. I think 18 is very young to get married, and I think you change a lot in your early 20's.
What's the rush? Stay together for a few years, and see how you do. See if you grow together or apart. It's much easier to break up then it is to divorce.
2007-02-28 10:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by KmmK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay just because you are pregnant doesn't mean you need to get married this 2007 and no where does it say you have to get married. If you two love each other and you want to wait it's your choice. I am currently engaged to my fiance and we had planned to get married before we got pregnant. For sake of argument YES the baby was planned and we are going to wait till after the baby gets here simply because We both want to get back in shape. So I hope this helps.
2007-02-28 10:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Toni V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
best bet is to wait. Chances are at their young age marriage will not last anyway....they both still need to grow up. It will be more difficult for her because, due to the fact that she is a child and is going to have a baby.....she can't go out and have fun like her friends are going to be doing.....she will end up going wild, while her parents watch the baby....and she goes out partying.....this is a bad idea....the grandparents end up with the baby...raising it, while she is out having a good time...and getting pregnant again.
best of luck.....they do not need to get married...right now.....if they can make it together when they are 24 and both have good jobs and both have been to school and have saved money.....then they can get married.....but right now they are just too immature.
2007-02-28 10:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok atleast legally.
2007-02-28 13:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by kevo m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they want to follow God, they wouldn't even be having sex before getting married.
2007-02-28 10:09:57 · answer #7 · answered by daysie78 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋