Due date after miscarriage?

Question

After having a miscarriage, did anyone mark/remember the due date? And did it really effect you? Mine has been taking its toll on me and just wondering if I am taking it too hard?

Answer 1

I miscarried a baby that was due 1/1/00 so it was a hard date to forget. By then I was 11 weeks pregnant with my next child so at least I had some consolation but it was tough when everyone was celebrating the Millennium and the local papers were full of Millennium babies.Happily my next pregnancy was fine and I have also had another child since then.

Answer 2

Completely normal. My heart goes out to you. I miscarried triplets at 16 weeks last December 2005. They were to be due in June. You are not taking it to hard. You lost something that was dear to your heart and grieving is just part of the healing process. Many times over the first few months, there were things that would make me cry and feel down. For example, just this last Christmas it had already been a year since the miscarriage and I was also already pregnant again, and even though my pregnancy was successful, I still thought about the babies that I had lost. I thought I had gotten past it, but while hanging up the stockings, it occured to me that I should have been hanging up three new ones.
When my daughter was born just 8 weeks ago, I was thankful for the fact that I had such a perfect baby, but was still very sad for the little ones that I had lost.
Take each day just one day at a time and try to stay strong. Many women go on to have completely healthy pregnancies after a miscarriage (including me) and if you are trying to concieve again, do the best that you can to keep yourself healthy.
Good luck and take care.

Answer 3

Hi there

I'm really sorry to hear you had a miscarriage. I had one too, and yes I did think about it a lot on the due date. But I think it's a really positive thing to do to be honest. Why should you just brush it under the carpet? Do whatever you feel should be done - it's an important part of the grief process.

If you have a partner, try and discuss it with them. You may find they're feeling the same way but hiding it to protect you. Talk it over with your family and friends as well if you feel comfortable doing so.

You need a lot of support to come to terms with what has happened and all too often people try to dismiss it as if it wasn't something to be upset about. Tell them to allow you to grieve for your loss. And stay positive, whatever you feel is all perfectly normal.

Answer 4

I'm very sorry for you loss. You aren't taking it too hard at all. Everyone grieves in their own way. You lost a baby that you obviously wanted very much. Don't put added stress on yourself by wondering if you are "normal" or not. But do remember that grief can consume a person and no longer be healthy after awhile. So once your due date passes and you've acknowledged your loss, try to move on with life and focus on all the positive and wonderful things that there are.

Answer 5

Honey, my first baby would have turned 11 last July 10th (or right around there).
I think of it every year. The first two due dates really got to me, but after that it seemed like it was more like when writing a check and realizing the date on it is the day. Or buying a gallon of milk and seeing the expiration date is that day. It doesn't hurt me as bad now that I have 4 other children, but that doesn't mean that I don't still think about the first one. It was my baby and always will be. I get to meet that person in heaven someday just like you will yours.
((((((((((hugs))))))))))))

Answer 6

It is very normal to morn your loss on your due date...so many expectations, planning and then..nothing. Yes, I did, and 23 years later still think what if??? Don't let it ruin you life, make a quick "good-bye" to the baby, may be just as simple as sending a balloon to heaven, or talking to your pastor/priest. Just because the baby was not with you on a day to day basis, does not mean that it wasn't real, like so many people like to pretend!
writing it out helped me at the beginning..time heals, but the what if always stays...it just doesn't hurt as badly..
hang in there

Answer 7

my stpemom lost her's at 15 weeks and it effected herr becaus eshe relaly wanted it but she got pregnant right after and now knows she would have the little boy she has now it that didn't happen. she had allready had two ultrasounds! when she miscarried she wripped the pics up so she woldn't have to grieve when she saw them. she know that there was most likely something wrong and it was better for the baby to be taken away to be with god instead of living a life where maybe it had problems
ps it's always good to talk about it sometimes so you can finally get what you're thinking off your chest

Answer 8

A lot of people remember the due date and have sadness on or around that day. It's completely normal.

Answer 9

Absolutely - I miscarried last April and mourned on my baby's due date. I couldn't get it out of my mind. I was even sad during the holidays thinking about the fact that I should have had my little one home with me.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Answer 10

I did with the first one I would have been due on my mom`s b-day(which is also my sisters to)...But I was about 4 months pregnant with my son so it wasn`t as bad as it could have been..Try to relax and don`t stress to much..I had two in a row and went on to have a healthy baby boy and I`m 17 weeks with #3 now..Good luck to you.