i suspect my wife has cheated on me strange phone calls etc. what should i do?

Answer 1

Cheating RARELY has to do with sex, despite everybody thinking that it does. It has to do with somebody else giving your spouse something YOU are not giving them. Before you try to figure out if she's cheating on you or not, you need to ask yourself what reason she would have for cheating on you? Wha aren't YOU doing to keep her happy? Or are you another perfect husband who is 100% innocent of any wrongdoing???

Answer 2

It depends on what the etc...is. Don't confront her yet. If you do, it'll just let her know you're on to her and she'll just start covering her tracks better. Believe me I've made that mistake before. What you need is proof. Lay low and act normal. Collect all the facts you can and when you have enough proof that's when you inform her of you're knowledge. Ask her questions like what was you're day like? If she gets shifty and can't keep eye contact you'll know she's lying. There's spyware that's very affordable to download to your computer to track her every move. And she'll never know it's there. Star 69 the phone after she's used it, but don't let her know. Check her cell phone bills for a list of calls. Look for strange numbers and the frequency of those numbers. Notice when you ask her a question if her body movements are not in sync with her words, if they are delayed, this means she's really having to think hard before she proceeds in answering your questions. This is a sure sign that she's trying to snowball you! Good luck and remember to Lay low for a while!

Answer 3

you need to confront her and if she confesses talk to her about WHY she did it. There may be an explanation for the phone calls etc but you won't know unless you confront her.

if she says shes not and you still have your suspicions then do some further investigation.

if it turns out she is cheating and has lied about it then its not only a cheating but a lying issue so maybe time to move on.

Answer 4

chances that if your intuition is telling u this that there is more than a good chance it is happening. confront her, find out where her heart is, and demand she stop seeing him, if she won't than u have no other way u can go but to seek a divorce. know that whatever decision u make will be difficult. but why would u want someone who cheated on u? it destroys self worth, hurts us, destroys how we felt about that person, seems we can't just go back to where it once was. find out where her heart is at, if she will be honest with u, most people avoid being truthful unless they are ready to leave a relationship or wanting to reconcile.

Answer 5

As an investigator, I have 2 questions for you.

Have you always felt that way? If the answer is yes then don't worry about it.

If this is a feeling you've never had before, and it continues you may have to hire a PI.

BUT make sure you want to know the answers before you ask the question.

Hope this helps,

Answer 6

Try talking to her without accusing . . . it may be completely innocent. A friend of hers might be in a bad situation and asked her to keep their conversations private; same with a family member or coworker.
My husband bugged our house phone when his brother called and asked to talk to me. My BIL wanted me to try to intercept the mail so that we could surprise my husband with the news that the job my husband had been on a waiting list for 12 yrs. for had finally come through. My BIL worked for the same company and had been working doubly hard to try to get my husband hired in after I was diagnosed with breast cancer. Apparently he had done this several times throughout our 12 1/2 yr. marriage - whenever he was feeling especially paranoid. I had never cheated on him, nor had I ever entertained notions of leaving him or cheating on him. My vows meant something to me. Unfortunately, they didn't mean anything to him. He was paranoid because he had cheated several times during our marriage - he was monitoring what I knew when he was lying about his whereabouts (plus people who lie and cheat tend to be especially suspicious that everyone else does, too).
If your marriage is going through tough times, it may be that your wife is talking with a friend regarding what to do. I'm not saying that she wouldn't cheat (because I don't know you, her, or your situation) - she might be unhappy and be entertaining the idea, who knows unless you ask.
Before you talk to her (calmly, of course, without accusing), sit and get your thoughts together. Make a list of things that you believe makes you a good husband and her a good wife. Make another list of improvements you would like to make to be a better husband and what she could do to contribute toward a happier marriage. Ask for her input, see a counselor, etc. if it all comes down to that.

Be ready to apologize if it's all innocent as she may be very hurt and offended.

Answer 7

Sit her down & talk to her. Don't accuse her of anything, but talk to her. Explain to her why you feel something might be going on behind your back. Give examples & just what-not. But don't say anything like, "I KNOW YOU ARE CHEATING", unless you have PROOF. If you don't have PROOF, then you are accusing & that will start a new fight. I don't think you want that. So just sit down with her & talk. See what happens.

Answer 8

confront her about it.But let me warn you...just cuz you ask her dont mean shes ganna tell you the truth!!Ive been cheated on by my ex for 7 yrs.The truth would slap me in the face and somehow he'd still manage to make me believe it wasnt happening.There were times i wanted to hire a spy or something.I always go with my gut instinct now days.Cuz everytime he cheated on me..i felt it before i found out.Nobody should put up with that...once a cheater,always a cheater.Especially if they favor thier lying skills.

Answer 9

Communication is the best answer for this subject. I think you should sit her down and talk to her. If she doesn't come clean, give her an ultimatum. Good luck!

Answer 10

There's always a reason why someone cheats. Look at your life and see what she's not getting at home.