Should men have a say in abortion...?

Question

or should it only be up to the women...and why do you think that?

Answer 1

men should have a say to,why because it's there child too.I personally dont think abortion should be allowed except under cercimstances beyond the womens control like a life & death situation,rape something really drastic.If its just a case of not wanting the baby then why did they lay down with out protection in the 1st place?If you play with fire your gonna get burned.they should take responceability from the 1st touch not kill a helpless baby after they had there fun.

Answer 2

I think it depends on your marriage status (married or not). I don't think any man should make a woman abort and think that it is a womans choice. However, both of the people created that child so both should be considered if he wants to keep that child and she doesn't. I think a man should have a say to some extent to tell you honestly. However, the choice is up to the woman. I personally think a man should have a say when it comes to keeping a child but the majortiy of non married men do not want to. My opinions on abortion put aside this is the way I feel. If my hubby made me get an abortion knowing that I personally do not want one I would leave him. He knows where I stand on that. What another person does is their issue. It does not mean I am pro choice, but we do not have a say in what others do to their body. We can't tell a smoker to quit even though we know it could lead to ill effects. But I personally am not going to change the way I feel because someone says you should or should not be this way. So answering your question yes and no.

Answer 3

Personally, I dont believe woman should have a say in it, either. Abortion is an abomination. How could you kill something that is so inoccent and precious? The only way I believe in Abortion, is if the pregnancy is going to harm you or the baby, or if you have a risk of death to the baby, or if youve been raped. If you can lay there and have sex, then your woman enough to handle the consequences. Even though, if your told the preganncy will be healthy, and you just dont want the baby, think of all the loving couples out there that do want children. Always remember that if you have an abortion now, it can affect your later pregnancies that you wanna keep. If it comes right down to it, YES the father should have a say in it to! I do not know if you are meaning yourself, so Im sorry to blow up like this. I just want people to understand.

Answer 4

I've thought about this subject alot. Not exactly should men have a say in abortion but what should men have a say in. Of couse abortion is the woman's choice. Regardless of what the man wants, it is the woman who has to be physically burdened by pregnancy. Some people would say that if she didn't want to carry a child for 9 months then she shouldn't have had (unprotected) sex. If we didn't give any recognition to the difficulty of actually carrying the child then the other option would be making abortion illegal, but that would be a waste of technology and opportunity.

What men should have a say in is whether they actually have a obligation to the kid. U have to think of it in this way: Alot of women have sex with guys even though they know that they aren't ready to raise a child. When they get pregnant they have the opportunity to have an abortion in order to prevent themselves from having to take care a child (not many abortions aren't about the 9 month pregnancy, they r about the responsibility after it). Men should have a similar option. What I've thought of is that men should be able to sign off their parental rights and responsibilities with no questions asked. This would take away any possibility of paying child support or being expected to take care of the kid. If he isn't ready than he should have an opportunity to relieve himself of the burden just like women do with abortion. The stipulation to this would be that the man would have to do it before the point at which a woman can no longer have an abortion had pasted. That way he could tell her that he wasn't going to be a part of the child's life when it was born and she would know that she was going to have to be a single parent. If she didn't want to be a single parent then she would still have time for an abortion but if she did she wouldn't be able to blame the man for walking out on her because she would have chosen to be a single parent on her own.

Answer 5

I feel that if the man wants to be in the childs life and raise them and the mother does not want the baby the mother should let the man have custody, why murder a child and take away their chance at life just because you dont want the child? if the man wants to have the baby and raise him or her then thats the best thing for the child then. Im against abortion for any reason thow unless maybe you where raped by a family member or medical reasons other then that I think its wrong period. But I do believe the father should have a say in weather the woman has one or not because its not just the mothers baby its the fathers as well he just cant carry the baby or anything and thats not his fault. Now if the guy is not a good guy and would not make a good dad then that should be up to the woman then.

Answer 6

Well to be honest the law says that the father has a say in the abortion.. thing is that most women lie and say they were raped and their is no father known. This is why I say that if they say they are raped that it should be proven.. like hospital/police reports stating it was a rape case before the abortion is done. If there is no proof.. then it should not be done. Because it proves the girl is using an abortion as birth control.
If the father says that he wants to keep the baby then the courts can make the mother have the child and give up her rights as the mother at the birth. But it takes the law to protect it.. and most of the time the woman kills the child before the father even knows. There has been a case where the father sued the mother when he found out that she aborted the child and he won.

Answer 7

I think that if you are in a relationship then yes men should have a say but if it's a result of a fling then things are different because generally you don't know the person very well (there are exceptions to this). But ultimately it is the women's decision. However I don't think that men should have a say if the abortion is to be done for medical reasons!

Answer 8

In a perfect world, the men would have equal say about an abortion. But, we don't live in a perfect world. If men did have a say, there would be nothing to stop them from keeping the woman from having an abortion and then abandoning both her and the baby. The stats of men who don't pay child support they legally owe is staggering. Right now, I think the only way to protect the rights of the mother is to make the choice hers and hers alone. After all, during the pregnancy, regarless of what happens to the child after it's born, the mother is the only one who has to deal with it. And we're talking 9 months, almost a year, a substantial amount of time.

Answer 9

I have had an abortion and I think that no matter what it is the womans choice. If she wants the mans opinion then that's up to her but if not the guy shouldn't have a say at all. I think this way because a man can walk out at any time. The woman carries that child and she's the one that will be responsible for what happens to the baby.

Answer 10

I think a woman should have the last say, a woman will always be there for a child, a man could walk out at any time, now, years from now, whenever, it happens all of the time. You should base your decision on how you feel about dedicating the rest of YOUR life to raising this child and being a mother. If you can't give the rest of your life to this child then you should make the decision. However, you shouldn't choose to end a life with out at least discussing it with the baby's father.