I need help!!!!?

Question

I am a depressed and pathetic problem child. I hate my life and have recently gone emo. I managed to stop cutting myself, but im still depressed. i am too depressed to study, which means im failing. Writing somehow makes it worse, so dont suggest that, i have low self esteem, and thers nothing stopping me from jumping out my window, and im only 14 years old...
Please help me!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

First of all, to get a grip on the situation, you MUST see a doctor so they can decide if your depression warrants medication. There is nothing wrong in doing this!

You MUST stop beating yourself up!!!! You are a teenager and are going through the “finding yourself” mode and this is normal. You are seeking independence and a direction. It sounds as though you are overwhelmed with present and past mistakes. Mistakes you have made and others, I'm sure! This is tough when you are dealing with mistakes in uni some with the emotional changes that occur while going through adolescence. It takes time to correct things that have happened in your life and get yourself on the right path.

I do hope that you have someone that can support you in this matter. Please look at what is stopping you from reaching out to that person for guidance. Usually it is your own feelings about your self worth that stop you from doing this. You tell yourself crap like, Oh, they won’t care because I did this or that! So you tend to make yourself feel all alone in your crisis. Realize when you get depressed that you also tend to sabotage yourself because you feel you cannot muster up the effort that is NEEDED to fix things.
Start by thinking more positively and praise yourself internally when you do the right thing or succeed at something that is helping you improve the situation, praise yourself for ANY effort that you do to “fix it”, this deserves a pat on the back! I know you have it in you to correct your situation because you have already begun since you have stopped cutting your self; I commend you on this step in your progress! You have to hit a breaking point and jumping out the window is not the answer here! You have to realize that other people make mistakes as well and accept this without letting it affect your self-esteem. I’m sure there is a lot of deep-rooted issues that need resolved and you are not fully responsible here! We are all unique individuals; we all have a purpose, and eventually find that purpose. We all have to own up to our mistakes to better ourselves, to stop the madness and correct the pains we caused others. Through our own pain we learn about compassion and this can be a wonderful thing if we can accept this!

You need to shed a light on why these behaviors have developed and get to the core of it. I will not suggest writing, but I have found this to work for me. I would reluctantly write out my feelings, needs, wants and desires when I was upset and go back to reread and find a resolution or direction when I was “sane” so to speak. Writing, even though I hated it, helped me to create passion toward a resolution, this helped me to start seeing things related to my mistakes and others mistakes objectively, I looked at things honestly and this strengthened me. It helped me to find out who I am, what I wanted, what I needed and this helped me take baby steps to get on the right path and set goals for myself. This also gave me insight to human behavior, I became my own self appointed psychologist. If you truly cannot help yourself in this way and you have no family support then it would not hurt for you to get into therapy. Get professional advice from someone that can help! There is nothing wrong in doing this either!!

I sincerely wish the best for you and you deserve to live a happy and fulfilled life. You can and will achieve this! Email me if you’d like or at least let me know how you are doing.

Answer 2

Hey destiny! I don't know what your name is, but you seem like a very beautiful and sensitive human being. The fact that you've realised what you feel like is a great achievement. Half the work is done.
Now, try figuring out -
1. Why you are depressed.
- This can be done in many ways. You can choose your own path. A very common reason, and which might be the case with you, is that you are not being able to utilize your potential. It can be very frustrating. You have nothing concrete to do, and you don't get a sense of achievement.
Now, i'm not here to help you.
Because I can't.
It's YOU who can help yourself. So yeah, i can try helping you to help yourself.
An easy way of doing it would be to engage yourself in something that requires a lot of concentration. Try www.eliteskills.com to read some poetry, and maybe write some of your own saying how you feel. You'll find some interesting people there, sign up, it's free. You can mail me on [e-mail].
I don't know what you like doing. Try music. Close your eyes and sit in a quiet place with some music you like, something that's soothing. Inspiration is not found in the mountains. It is there right inside you, you just have to see it.

Try turning around, maybe it's right there.

Love,
Mihir

Answer 3

I loved Zuch M's answer. At least your trying to find answers instead of ignoring them. A lot of adults never-ever address their shortcomings and spend their lives trying to mask or ignore or just compensate for their negativity in all kinds of ways that really hurt the people they love or associate with. Keep a drive going to nip this stuff. Be patient with yourself but pursue the answers like your life depends on it because it does. Don't let your well-being, happiness, and emotional state depend on any person, place or thing. Man kind's fought this stuff since we've been around. "What we do and don't do is largely determined by the amount of self-limitations we impose on ourselves".

Answer 4

Dear Destiny-
I found an 800 number for you- 800-866-210-3388- it is a teen suicide prevention line- I am sure they would love to talk with you and give you some suggestions (I think that because I used to work for a free "HELP" phone service).

Answer 5

Get off the internet and find a real doctor.

Answer 6

take the help from ur elders & notthing is bad in our life ,we make those things bad so try to thing positive & things automatecaly be good!

Answer 7

there has to someone you trust to talk to at home or school maybe even the inernet find someone today

Answer 8

Go to your Guiednce counslor and discuss your problems to him/her.

Answer 9

well if theres nothing to stop you then why dont you do it?